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Sadly what connects all these puzzles is that ther
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when I read the posts in this thread I had an aha moment. I am now convinced that terri did hate Kyron, told everyone, asked Desiree to take him back, she was hating him more every day and with her relationship with Kaine going downhill I reckon she fixed the problem.....
before I get slammed, I do not agree with her, there were other ways to go about it of course....
I want to know why Desiree did not take him back if she had suspicions???????? why does she not have her other son as well. I think we are now getting to Terris motive and I think she was getting back at Kaine and Desiree..... her anger and hatred has consumed her, she does not want to be the primary caregiver for a child that is not her bio child, dad obviously doesnt want to give up custody, she has asked mum, mum has ignored her, so in her deluded very very angry mind, she has fixed the problem...
woah..I have been in this position and it consumes you...I have reluctantly told of my situation on here. I am not proud of it but I did not like my stepdaughter either. I was going out with my husband who told me he had a daughter who was 10, he hadnt lived with her since she was 8 months old and had not seen for 7 years. The mum had four kids to 4 dads and just went from man to man and caused major problems for each man when they split (restraining orders etc) so none of the dads were involved in the kids lives.....we had been together for 6 mths when he got a phone call that her mum had killed herself. Because he did not know her and was not married, the families decided that the 4 kids would be kept together and live with one of the dads and his family....mu husband would get to know her in school holidays and after she finished school could live with us. I agreed to this. BUT 1 year later after we had a baby, my husbands mother intervened and without asking me, she was sent to live with us at the age of 12. She was a stranger to my husband, I had a one year old and was pregnant with my 2nd. She was the rudest child I had ever encountered. He worked alot and has no family where we live, only me, so I ended up being primary carer as well as my family.....I tried, I really did but none of us could take to her...after years of moving and lots of men in her life, she was a survivor and looked out for herself. After a year or two we noticed the stealing and the constant lying. We gave this child everything but she would not stop the stealing or the manipulating. she got done at least 3 times for shoplifting and just took what she wanted from everyone without giving a rats....the crunch came for me when she stole from my parents, these people are quite wealthy and gave her so much, not only material goods but love and time as well. By this stage I had turned against her so much because it seemed I was doing a lot of giving and she was destroying my nice life. My husband and I were fighting constantly, we didnt get a break from her as his family were on the bottom of australia, we are on the top, he seemed to be working all the time. My family get togethers were getting ruined as she seemed to be always caught for stealing and the atmosphere was getting colder, everyone was hiding their bags etc......eventually my mother snapped and said she couldnt stand this kid, right in front of my husband. I was a mess and was telling EVERYONE, his family, my friends, my family that there were major problems, we were going to counsellors etc and I was getting more and more angry as through all this, this child kept stealing and lying....I saw right through her and did not trust her one bit. One day she stole from one of her friends at school and got caught by her dad, when he asked her (in tears) why, she replied that she didnt think she would get caught. That was the end, he bundled her on the first plane to her brothers, but now his mum and dad look after her. Our life is so much better and we love each other, before we were so so so close to a divorce (I saw this as my only option to get away from her)
I feel so guilty about all of this as she can be a lovely girl, she is just VERY good at getting what it is she wants and needs, even if it means lying, manipulating and stealing (her mother was very much like this apparently)...We are in constant contact and I am sure she is upto her old tricks, but his mum turns a blind eye, so she's happy and we are happy.
I have talked to alot of stepmums and I have heard some horror stories, one lady got divorced because her husbands 13 year old daughter kicked her in the belly when she was pregnant and she miscarried.
Go a site called steporg.com and read the forums, it is a site where stepparents vent....Ithink alot of you will be horrified, but the truth is alot of step families dont work, very sad I know....hence the increase in abuse by stepdads and boyfriends and the murder of children by the boyfriend or stepdad. I know it is very very wrong and with the breakdown of the nuclear family there is more and more of it.
I certainly do not agree with what Terri has done at all, in fact I am kind of surprised as she had Kyron from such a young age and was a very big part of the development of his personality, normally the problem is with taking on older children whos principles and personalities have developed.
It does show that she has some form of personality disorder to take this kind of action...
Hi ReVampz! I always enjoy your posts.. When you do post in this forum here and there your posts are one of those that I do always read..
First off I want to thank you for sharing the above about your life and situation.. IMO this is the reality of the way things really go in RL.. Tho, many choose to not see the reality rather only see the fairy tale facade that so many attempt to portray their situation and homelife to be.{as did Terri Horman, when the reality was much darker, much much more dysfunctional than many choose to see}.. Families true lives have varying degrees of dysfunction and/or dysfunctional family members that cause much strain on the household and its family members..{just as Aedrys also gave a real acct of her situation}tho yours of course differs from hers..they both however are the reality of blended families..
If I'm not mistaken a few months back you posted about your hubby's EX...IIRC she was very much like Terri Horman in many ways and thus too causing much dysfunction, chaos, etc..And then in the ultimate of selfish behaviors she chose to take her own life leaving multiple children essentially "orphans"{as she had isolated all of the children from their fathers..if I'm not mistaken}... Her actions have caused the "ripple effect" throughout many many ppls lives with your homelife and family being a big part of that being afffected.. I understand feeling empathy/sympathy for this 12 yr old{who is a stranger to you all}but when you as a new, unprepared, and I'd assume in somewhat of a shock by the events that quickly unfolded with her suddenly becoming a step daughter to you who had no idea that this was going to the outcome for you and your small family..You with a little one and another on the way.. well, I can only imagine the strain and stress..
As I said understandbly there would be sympathy for this 12 yr old and it sounds as tho you all did the very best with what you were dealing with..
As Aedrys described in her post upthread she was not prepared nor had prior knowledge that the circumstances that she was facing would be the reality of her family and homelife.. Yours too would be even more this case.. With no inkling of an idea that this EX would make choices that would impact you and your little ones.. Therefor there can be no blame IMO.. I believe you were just as much victims of his EX as was your 12 yr old step daughter..
Most of us, as It is apparent that you did, do the best with the situations that we are handed in life and many times there is that or those which you have no control over and can only do so much for and be able to keep your family, your children safe from the negative impact and effects of this sad situation that this woman alone has created..{and she's selfishly gone..leaving EVEYONE ELSE to deal with the disasterous mess she had created}..again so very sad and unfortunate FOR ALL INVOLVED..
AGAIN THANK YOU FOR SHARING, REVAMPZ! It is testimonies such as yours, Aedrys, and others that will continue to shed light on WHAT IS THE REAL TRUTH OF THE MATTER..