What about emotional abuse also .. you know the style - when your needs are completely ignored and if you dare to voice them it's the silent treatment and refusal to adjust as if to prove a point. I guess this is how it starts, in subtle little ways before anything you can actually 'pin down' as abuse really starts. Hard to know where that grey line starts. Has anyone else experienced the early stages and is aware of the red flags before the first big row that gets completely out of hand?
YoureNicked
THANKYOU for posting this site. :fence:
ok - let me kick it off by saying again, thanks to Kimster and Summer Breeze for this.
Legal Assistance for victims of DV -
Your local Community Legal Service can provide advice free of charge and it is not means tested.
Ipswich, Tmba and South West Qld - The Advocacy and Support Centre (TASC) www.tascinc.org.qu 07 46169700 has a presence in Ipswich, Tmba and outreach via its Rural Women Outreach Legal Service (RWOLS) to main centres in South West Qld eg Chinchilla, Roma, Charleville, Cunnamulla, St George, Goondiwindi, Warwick etc.
Legal Aid Qld have fact sheets and telephone advice lines. www.laq.qld.gov.au
Your own Solicitor
Support Services
There are many DV services in our communties. Often Ozcare, St Vincents de Paul, Centacare and Lifeline are good start points. They can provide advice, counselling and support.
Centrelink - have professional staff trained to assist eg social workers etc who are able to speak with individuals and refer/assist to appropriate services. They are also able to assist with some of the difficulties associated with complying with Centrelink obligations when in receipt of benefits.
Better Access program -referral by GP to allied health professionals for counselling, support etc. Used to be up to 10 sessions - not sure with current climate but is still available. Persons are able to access psychological support and counselling etc for minimal cost.
These are just an example of support available to victims of DV and just some quick thoughts before I head out the door.
Hope this helps someone.
The brave Sheep and cow girl rocks:rocker:
Love your work :fence:
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I was once the lamb at the slaughter of my x husband.....no matter how many times I called a truce:truce: he thought that made me selfless..:what:
Back to Allison....whenever we were to go somewhere important he would start abusing me. So once there I was very quiet....and reserved.
People would ask if I was OK....what is wrong.???????????????
Made me look like I was loosing the plot.....just what he wanted.:banghead:
I was to scared to look side ways....because I knew when we got home all hell would break loose.
Holes in the wall from :banghead: was the norm.....him banging my head into it.
Putting a gun to my head while ripping out phone lines....!!!!
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:fence:Sitting on the fence gives 'One' time to think how fox's work...and watch.
I was once the lamb at the slaughter of my x husband.....no matter how many times I called a truce:truce: he thought that made me selfless..:what:
Back to Allison....whenever we were to go somewhere important he would start abusing me. So once there I was very quiet....and reserved.
People would ask if I was OK....what is wrong.???????????????
Made me look like I was loosing the plot.....just what he wanted.:banghead:
I was to scared to look side ways....because I knew when we got home all hell would break loose.
Holes in the wall from :banghead: was the norm.....him banging my head into it.
Putting a gun to my head while ripping out phone lines....!!!!
These days am happy to sit on the fence....and protect the lambs...:fence:
I was once one of them.:rocker::woohoo: defenceless, to the fox.
:fence:
:fence:Sitting on the fence gives 'One' time to think how fox's work...and watch.
I was once the lamb at the slaughter of my x husband.....no matter how many times I called a truce:truce: he thought that made me selfless..:what:
Back to Allison....whenever we were to go somewhere important he would start abusing me. So once there I was very quiet....and reserved.
People would ask if I was OK....what is wrong.???????????????
Made me look like I was loosing the plot.....just what he wanted.:banghead:
I was to scared to look side ways....because I knew when we got home all hell would break loose.
Holes in the wall from :banghead: was the norm.....him banging my head into it.
Putting a gun to my head while ripping out phone lines....!!!!
These days am happy to sit on the fence....and protect the lambs...:fence:
I was once one of them.:rocker::woohoo: defenceless, to the fox.
:fence:
:fence:Sitting on the fence gives 'One' time to think how fox's work...and watch.
I was once the lamb at the slaughter of my x husband.....no matter how many times I called a truce:truce: he thought that made me selfless..:what:
Back to Allison....whenever we were to go somewhere important he would start abusing me. So once there I was very quiet....and reserved.
People would ask if I was OK....what is wrong.???????????????
Made me look like I was loosing the plot.....just what he wanted.:banghead:
I was to scared to look side ways....because I knew when we got home all hell would break loose.
Holes in the wall from :banghead: was the norm.....him banging my head into it.
Putting a gun to my head while ripping out phone lines....!!!!
These days am happy to sit on the fence....and protect the lambs...:fence:
I was once one of them.:rocker::woohoo: defenceless, to the fox.
:fence:
:fence:Sitting on the fence gives 'One' time to think how fox's work...and watch.
I was once the lamb at the slaughter of my x husband.....no matter how many times I called a truce:truce: he thought that made me selfless..:what:
Back to Allison....whenever we were to go somewhere important he would start abusing me. So once there I was very quiet....and reserved.
People would ask if I was OK....what is wrong.???????????????
Made me look like I was loosing the plot.....just what he wanted.:banghead:
I was to scared to look side ways....because I knew when we got home all hell would break loose.
Holes in the wall from :banghead: was the norm.....him banging my head into it.
Putting a gun to my head while ripping out phone lines....!!!!
These days am happy to sit on the fence....and protect the lambs...:fence:
I was once one of them.:rocker::woohoo: defenceless, to the fox.
:computer:
Poss, I feel Geanie is just sharing what she went through at the hands of someone who sounds like they could have taken her life. If that had happened we may have been on a forum talking about her murder. We have heard many other poster's stories of abuse by men in their lives.
If we can understand how domestic violence can happen from people who are brave enough to share their stories and look for the signs, mainly in women who are suffering in silence then senseless deaths like Allison could be avoided.
It very much sounds like Allison suffered in silence and her family must feel so guilty that they didn't do more to help her but they just didn't know the reality.
I am lucky to say that I have never been abused and have a happy marriage so women sharing their stories is well and truly opening my eyes to what can be happening behind closed doors. Maybe because of that I can someday be alert to someone I know that is in a potentially dangerous situation.
I thank all the posters who have shared their very personal stories.
Poss, I feel Geanie is just sharing what she went through at the hands of someone who sounds like they could have taken her life. If that had happened we may have been on a forum talking about her murder. We have heard many other poster's stories of abuse by men in their lives.
If we can understand how domestic violence can happen from people who are brave enough to share their stories and look for the signs, mainly in women who are suffering in silence then senseless deaths like Allison could be avoided.
It very much sounds like Allison suffered in silence and her family must feel so guilty that they didn't do more to help her but they just didn't know the reality.
I am lucky to say that I have never been abused and have a happy marriage so women sharing their stories is well and truly opening my eyes to what can be happening behind closed doors. Maybe because of that I can someday be alert to someone I know that is in a potentially dangerous situation.
I thank all the posters who have shared their very personal stories.
Having been bashed, raped and left in a ditch to die myself several years ago, I find it difficult when people say they did nothing about the abuse they chose to tell about. The 'did nothing' post however has disappeared. I say this only to clarify, and my personal story doesn't belong here. If anywhere it belongs in the chat section.
But rest asured I sought justice for myself as I do for Allison.
(random, not domestic)