So is there a daddy gene? Or a make-as-many-babies-as-possible gene? I know nature makes it so in the beginning a baby looks more like dad, a way of establishing paternity. That might trigger a nurturing gene in males. I've seen some men who are better parents than their counterparts, so maybe the mommy gene isn't exclusive to one gender.
Maybe it's just a nurturing gene? I believe men have it as well.
The percentiles are probably similar....
IMO a man who truly gives his all to his children also respects their mother and has no interest in having more than his salary can afford...
I have seen this where the mom wasn't cut out for the job and dad got custody.
I had a 17 yr old patient that got his gf preg. She wanted to give the baby up.
He fought her and his mother tooth and nail! He was a big guy! over 6 ft and probably 250#
He Immediately Quit football (and school) took online courses to grad early, worked his butt off at two jobs for 7 months, to save $ to pay his mom for childcare and provide a nursery for his little girl.
He stopped dating and hanging out with his friends...
Went to church yard sales to buy her supplies...
Checked out a book about what to expect the first year from the library and made a note book for her... (That he brought to every Dr's visit)
Went to the the local hospital and took free parenting courses.
Asked his sister for one of her dolls to practice his diapering skills...
Took the bed out of his small room to make room for her crib,
Stayed with the baby at the hospital (mom checked out hours after the birth) The hospital gave him a room just as though he had given birth to her.
He slept on the floor in his room, got up for every feeding...
Got all of her check ups and shots ON TIME!
He was 18 when his little girl was born.
The last time I saw her she was 2. He even learned how to braid her hair while she slept with the little colored balls in it!! ~not sure what that is called???
He started working a night shift when she started sleeping through the night so his mom wouldn't have too much stress, and started on-line college.
Let me tell you that kid was awesome!
Last I heard the mother had not even seen her toddler since the day she gave birth to her.
he had the parenting gene NO DOUBT!!!