Very interesting, but deeply disturbing emails sent from DA to WA. Wendi was a grown woman, with two children, not to mention a law degree. Why did DA want her so desperately to move back to south Florida? DA sounds much more unhinged than I had ever imagined.
Not contesting the characterization of DA as "unhinged," but the desire to move back to S FL was shared by WA as well, more so than her parents. WA passionately hated Tallahassee, which is clear from her disparaging comments about it in her public posts as well as the thinly veiled autobiographical stuff from her book. She was constantly applying to the court to let her move back there, but these requests were consistently denied.
The family was negatively obsessive about this IMO. They regarded WA as their golden child, and heaped praise on her to an extreme degree. By contrast, Dan's treating her as a second-class member of their marriage (he was the tenure-track law professor while she was a mere clinical professor, the trailing spouse) relegated her to a status that enraged her family.
Then for her to be stuck in Tallahassee due to Dan's also being there, even after the nuclear meltdown of a divorce, was a bitter pill for WA. She couldn't get out of Dan's orbit and she had to live in a city she hated. Hence the growing enmity for her and the rest of the Adelsons that culminated in (IMO) hiring a contract killer.
This is all pathological of course--Tally is not that far from Miami and WA was a grown woman capable of living on her own. But it is a lesson about not allowing yourself to be consumed by hatred, as the Adelsons did for Dan. It can make you do evil things, and it may end up destroying you as much as the object of your hate.