southcitymom
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If I was a teen and dead set on having an abortion...I'd simply find my way to a state that didn't require parental notification.
Me too.
If I was a teen and dead set on having an abortion...I'd simply find my way to a state that didn't require parental notification.
I have never heard that about BC pills before. They used to have to up mine to five a day to stop my periods. I find it odd it can cause an abortion.
I look at being a teen confidant as guiding them to do the right thing. I would never withold that kind of information from a parent, but would go with them to discuss it. As a parent, I would be horrified if someone thought so little of my child and myself that they would take on that role to hide life changing, important events from me.
I had a severe reaction to the morning after pill. I hope this girl is fine!
My oldest daughter serves as my youngest dd's confidant. The rule has always been she will hold her "secrets" unless she deems it neccessary to tell me. This would fall under the categories of pregnancy, sex, or abuses. Also situations where she felt there was a danger attached either mental or physical so we could deal with it as a family.I definitely understand and respect your position, SS. However, I believe it is up to the sexually active teen to decide who to share that information with. If the teen is not comfortable telling her parents, there's probably a reason for that. I could have told my parents (my Dad and stepmom) had I become pregnant as a teenager.
I also think it's important for teens to have other adults (aunts, godparents, other mentors, etc..) they can go to confidentially with personal information. I might encourage a pregnant teen to tell her parents, but I would never tell them myself if I had been approached in confidence about the subject.
Of course, I don't know that this is what happened in the case we are discussing. It sounds like the Court found that this woman had truly pressured this girl to do what she wanted her to do - that's not cool.
ATLANTA -- The parents of a 16-year-old girl forced to have an abortion by her boyfriends mother said that mother deserves more than a year in jail.
Cindi Cook received a 12-month sentence for saying she was the girls mother and signing a parental notification form allowing a clinic to perform the procedure. The DeKalb County Solicitor General continues to investigate the clinics role in the abortion to see if they followed state law.
The girls parents said they want to know why the crime Cook committed is only a misdemeanor and they said theyre going to work to change the law to a much stiffer punishment.
It someone else does this theyre going to get punished for it. Its not going to be a misdemeanor, said the girls mother, who did not want to be identified.
The parents of the 16-year-old girl do not have kind words for Cook. Shes an awful person, said the girls mother.
I just point-blank asked her, How could you have done this, said the girls father.
more: http://www.wsbtv.com/news/16589671/detail.html
She was very close with the girl - it's not something she did willy nilly or without thought. If a teenaged girl confided sexual activity to me and did not want her parents to know, I would definitely honor that.
The morning after pill is not particularly dangerous - it's like taking 3 BC pills. (in fact, in college, before there was an official morning after pill - we sometimes used our BS pills for that very purpose). It will simply make you start your period. When I was a rape crisis counselor, we gave them to every rape victim regardless of age. It was SOP.
After some research, I found out that a girl as young as 12 in Canada can have an abortion without parental consent. This procedure is also paid for by taxes. That is why I find it hard to understand why a "young adult" in the USA needs her parent permission and consent to "have an abortion".
I guess the two countries are very much different.
In light of this thread, I thought the following story about this girl dying from abortion drugs was interesting
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/art...avoid-upsetting-Muslim-boyfriends-family.html
After some research, I found out that a girl as young as 12 in Canada can have an abortion without parental consent. This procedure is also paid for by taxes. That is why I find it hard to understand why a "young adult" in the USA needs her parent permission and consent to "have an abortion".
I guess the two countries are very much different.
Heck the USA has one of the highest rates of teen pregnancy in the western world. Would you like a hint as to why: Because Birth control is not taught in schools and is not made available to students, unlike other countries which have lower rates. Why do these countries have a lower rate of teen pregnancy: Because sex ed is taught in school and birth control is taught to be used to prevent unwanted pregnancy and STD. Also if a person goes to an clinic to have an abortion, they are asked what type of birth control will "now be used" and they are given the resources for birth control. They do not leave the clinic without knowledge of how to prevent unwanted pregnancy.
The ostrich approach just does not seem to work. This girl could easily walked away, told her parents, school etc. No one "forced" her to become pregnant and no one "held" her by the arms kicking and screaming, with restraints to have the abortion.
Over the next 12 months there will be 1 million teen pregnancies. 95% of those pregnancies are "unintentional" and unwanted. Almost half of teenage mothers end up on welfare.
[FONT=Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif]The United States of America has double the adolescent pregnancy and birth rates of any other industrialized country. [/FONT][FONT=Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif]Educating teenagers about contraception makes them more likely to use contraception when they begin having sex, but it doesn't lower the age at first intercourse.[/FONT]
[FONT=Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif]Now what could have happened, as is often the case. They find a newborn body in a dumpster. Or in a field. Or the parent "killed" the baby at birth. To me that is worse because the child was born alive, but in essence it is "constructive" abortion because the "baby" is born and then killed. Oh I forgot, murder the mother and "fetus" and the "responsibility of the "Father" ends.[/FONT]
[FONT=Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif]I have a novel idea. Teach sex ed, teach a teenager how to prevent pregnancy, give them resources for birth control. I put money that the "problem" of unwanted teen age pregnancy will be curtailed. [/FONT]
[FONT=Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif]Deal with the problem before it is a problem, not after.[/FONT]