IMO no. The reason I say this is Harris is not a "catch". Harris does not have a fantastic job, doesn't have lots of money, hell he wasn't even faithful to her. Leanna is a college educated woman. A woman that has close friends and family. She was not a stay at home mom who depended on Harris to support her. She worked as well.
Leanna's own words, at the day care and when she reunited with Harris, say it all. She knew what he had done but was worried that he would throw her under the bus as well.
MOO
And if he weren't a narcissist who'd already cheated on her once, had a "wonky willy" in the marital bed but was perfectly capable of sexting his erect penis to other women, I'd totally agree with you.
I respectfully disagree -- because a narcissist knows how to "pick them" (and by that it could be almost anyone). They can figure out rather quickly how much grooming and bending it will take to wrap someone around their finger and while they like a challenge, they won't waste their time on someone they can't control. And by that, I mean control when it counts for HIM -- he might have encouraged her to pursue interests and hang out with girlfriends for all we know... but if he did it wasn't because he cared about her. It was either to give himself free time (for sexting & hookups?) or to appear to be the perfect husband.
Because he married her, I'll bet that he knew how to play her like a violin, knew how to work her guilt, knew how to play the victim and gain her sympathies, etc and so on... so she might be mourning the loss of her son, but she could also be addicted to trying to be his "everything" and she simply cannot accept that he is a monster and will bend over backwards to make excuses for him so he won't leave her AND it's painful to admit to yourself that this person you love & believe in DOES NOT EXIST AND NEVER REALLY DID -- educated, pretty, doesn't matter. It's especially hard on someone who is intelligent, IMO, because you're constantly questioning things -- it's always on your mind, and it can take over your life. They may have disagreed & argued from time to time (probably in her moments of clarity) but the sun rose & set on Ross's arse. So it's possible that she's trying to "be strong for Ross" and that the realization & gravity & pain & anger won't set in until she has been free of him for some time and can "see the light."
IMO, LH should be very relieved he is behind bars because who knows -- two weeks, two years, ten years from now.... she could be next on his list of inconveniences!
That is, if she's not as narcissistic as he is -- just like Stoddard says, "we've only scratched the surface" -- it will be interesting to see how it develops and her comments & behavior thus far come into play over the long haul.
Respectfully, MOO
but evidently they weren't aware of the sexting or they would have fired him on the spot I would think.
