KaylynnCouture
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"I am innocent and really the real "victim" in this case."
Sounds like Casey Anthony.
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"I am innocent and really the real "victim" in this case."
reading through these....two things surprised me. first, I am actually on the fence now as to what she's done with gabriel. I was sure from the beginning she'd killed him and right now I am not so sure...it's the way she talks about gabriel when she does talk about him....I remind myself that OCA talked similarly of caylee in her jailhouse letters and it didnt mean a thing - of course, there is reason to believe gabriel was given away rather than murdered in this case....so I am on the fence now for the first time.
the second thing that surprised me is that I have some sympathy for EJ that I never had for OCA or other similar cases. I think EJ is extremely mentally ill. some of it is for show but most of it I think is true illness. this is not to say that I think she is incapable of helping her defense, she's clearly refusing rather than unable, although a more sympathetic person than I would say she is refusing because she is unable...but I dont think that's the case.
I notice that there are several quotes from Victor Hugo in Elizabeth's letters. One of my favorite movies is The Story of Adele H (Francois Truffaut). It's about Victor Hugo's youngest daughter Adele and her descent into madness. Like EJ, she lost a family member by drowning (her older sister) and was rejected by the man she was in love with. She spent most of her life in an insane asylum where she wrote letters and kept a journal.
OT I guess. Sometimes this case makes my mind wander.
I gained an interesting view of her childhood from her own eyes in her writings. She says her mother adored her and thought she could do no wrong ever and defended her (took her side) no matter WHAT. I guess this tells us how to successfully breed a self-righteous sense of entitlement and possibly impair a child for life?
Not at all OT...I think that's a really interesting angle to bring up that I wouldn't have thought of. We know she was a good student, she probably thinks she's smarter than everyone else so throw in some literary/historic references and thinks it'll fly right over people's heads. It's an "I'm so much smarter than all of you" aspect of her personality. Kudos for the observation.
Yet...she ended up in foster care as neither parent was capable of getting past their own needs (drugs and alcohol) to serve hers. She learned or inherited this narcissism, and also learned how easy it is so discard people with no emotion early in life. And if you start off life in survival mode all the time, your brain is going to develop to react that way and you are going to stay in it whether you need to or not. I know this firsthand from having a narcissistic mother who grew up in extreme poverty with a neglectful mother herself. There's a reflex/instinct to save oneself at all costs in any situation that can't be easily overcome.
She is such a fascinating case, I just want to study her.
Thanks for that excellent depiction of what makes a NPD and BPD'd person tick. It cuts to the chase, describes perfectly in so few words and much better than most books in their entirety.
Your description brings back my deepest sympathy and deep regret for all children left wanting. It's just so hard to maintain that tolerance and understanding over the long term when they become adults and trample the rights of others in their quest for their own sense of security.
Are there any folks out there with good tips on how to keep such a person in one's life without wearing down and becoming disdainful? I'm in personal need of that information.
I see no signs whatever of mental illness. Incredible self absorption. Complete lack of caring for anyone else. But no hallucinations or anything. Completely oriented to where she is, what's going on around her, and has an excellent understanding of the legal processes going on.
The only thing I see that interferes with her ability to assist in her defense is her intentional choice not to cooperate with her defense - the people who are trying to assist her. That's not mental illness. That's a plain and simple choice she's making. They're going above and beyond to try to help her to protect her rights. She's choosing to thwart their efforts. She says over and over and over she knows she shouldn't be writing to the judge.
I wonder if all the psychiatrists got to see these letters.
reading through these....two things surprised me. first, I am actually on the fence now as to what she's done with gabriel. I was sure from the beginning she'd killed him and right now I am not so sure...it's the way she talks about gabriel when she does talk about him....I remind myself that OCA talked similarly of caylee in her jailhouse letters and it didnt mean a thing - of course, there is reason to believe gabriel was given away rather than murdered in this case....so I am on the fence now for the first time.
the second thing that surprised me is that I have some sympathy for EJ that I never had for OCA or other similar cases. I think EJ is extremely mentally ill. some of it is for show but most of it I think is true illness. this is not to say that I think she is incapable of helping her defense, she's clearly refusing rather than unable, although a more sympathetic person than I would say she is refusing because she is unable...but I dont think that's the case.
It seems she really emotionally engaged with Salame and I do believe she purged her soul and spilled her guts to him. Her own letters detail how frightened she became afterwards when her attorneys convinced her she had just damaged her "case" and how betrayed she felt. She even alludes to how good looking and desirable he was, how his physical mannerisms towards her were, in her own mind, like 'boyfriend-girlfriend'. Somehow, he really knew how to work her to get her to talk and it worked. I believe Salame may be the only living person besides EJ that knows what really happened.
Her constant insistence at sending her silly trivial whining letters directly to the judge is laughably a textbook narcissistic move. She makes it clear it is to get the MAXIMUM attention because the judge is then required to log it and share it around and EJ thinks the media craves her junky little whining notes.
The best thing I can see coming out of all these letters is that she conveys in them that her worst fear and dread is being in psychiatric lockup and that is EXACTLY where these very letters put her. She clearly loathes the thought of facing the world from a sane perspective, is very attached to her 2-year-oldish fixation of herself as the center of the universe, and speaks quite often about 'conquering' people. Oh yeah, EJ, you're quite the conquering thing, caged like a rat with no freedoms at all.
I gained an interesting view of her childhood from her own eyes in her writings. She says her mother adored her and thought she could do no wrong ever and defended her (took her side) no matter WHAT. I guess this tells us how to successfully breed a self-righteous sense of entitlement and possibly impair a child for life?
Thanks for that excellent depiction of what makes a NPD and BPD'd person tick. It cuts to the chase, describes perfectly in so few words and much better than most books in their entirety.
Your description brings back my deepest sympathy and deep regret for all children left wanting. It's just so hard to maintain that tolerance and understanding over the long term when they become adults and trample the rights of others in their quest for their own sense of security.
Are there any folks out there with good tips on how to keep such a person in one's life without wearing down and becoming disdainful? I'm in personal need of that information.