I have been sitting here thinking about making this post for over an hour. It's not the first time I have done that on this board and usually I just let it go. But this time after today's events I just cannot let it go. The hurt and frustration I feel inside is just too strong.
Several years ago I was falsely accused of a crime. The thought of this ever happening to me was completely unfathomable to me. I grew up as the kid who never go into any trouble, and at the time in my early adulthood had never had as much as a traffic ticket. Then one day completely out of the blue I was being read my Miranda rights.
Anyone who knows me personally to this day will tell you that I am honest to a T, but all of a sudden people where not taking me at my word, I could not comprehend that either.
My accuser was one of the "everyone is guilty until proven innocent" type of people. And then worst of all, I didn't act the "right way", whatever the supposed right way is supposed to be. Apparently the right way was to act like a crazy man falsely accused rather than look people directly in the eye and allow my words and my soul to tell the truth that I was innocent.
My life became a living hell. I could not sleep, I could not eat, my insides felt as though they were being eaten alive. I just wanted the pain to go away and telling the truth which I had always been taught was always the solution wasn't, and I attempted to take my own life.
Fortunately for me I thought of my wife and children who loved me, I cried out and was rescued before the massive amount of medication I had taken took their full effect.
As it turned out the charges against me never went anywhere because quite frankly they were false. Yet a significant part of my life was taken from me, it took years to get it back on track both emotionally and financially, all because of a false accusation.
I think about what George must be feeling and I think given the circumstances is likely ten fold what I felt in my darkest moment. I feel so sorry that people have used him as a punching bag as if his every action was logically thought out. I cannot even imagine the turmoil of emotions he has been called upon to endure.
I think if everyone just took ten minutes to try and feel some empathy for the man and his family, as hard as that may be. It might just change something in your feelings towards the positive, not so much about this case but perhaps life in general.
Great post SH. Thanks for sharing your perspective. I posted in the 1st tread about an experience I had where no one believed me I thought alot about it and struggled with whether to post it as well . . .
quoting myself from earlier: "I respectfully submit the following post . . .
I just don't understand why so many people state as if it is a known fact that there has been a cover up to a murder on the part of the A's. No one knows that for a fact.
I realize some of their (GA, CA, LA,) actions and statements have been confusing and seemingly contradictory to those who are viewing the situation from outside, and that has, of course, brought them alot of criticism. But none of us knows at this point what exactly happened. We don't know there was a murder, so we certainly don't know there has been a cover up.
I think it's obvious KC had something to do with what happened to Caylee, or at least had knowledge of it. That seems obvious, but I still don't know it as fact. I cannot in way condone or dismiss her not reporting her daughter missing and continuing to party on like she did. But, beyond that we don't know there was a murder (let alone any cover up on the part of her parents/brother) it could have been an accident. An accident she and the others with have to live with the results of for the rest of their lives.
I'm still not convinced of anything beyond that in any way. Yes, it was very wrong in the way she handled it.
Many years ago I was accused of abusing my child. I was innocent. The only thing I was guilty of was being a young mother (17) who was naive and didn't watch her as closely as I should have. (I never made that mistake again-I became way over protective of both she and her sister after that-better safe than sorry.) But I did not abuse her. (Thankfully, she healed and was, and is, ok BTW.)
It was terrible time in my life and NO ONE believed me-except my husband. My own parents, in-laws, most of my family and friends, with a couple of exceptions, thought I either had caused the abuse or was covering up for someone who I knew had. Neither accusations were true. I was innocent of
both.
The police also stated that I did not show any emotion or concern for my child when they were interrogating me. And I didn't. Why? Because I was IN SHOCK and confusion about what had happened. From the moment I saw my baby hurt, I couldn't think straight, I was so shocked and confused that I myself missed evidence that would have helped my case. I unwittingly made myself look worse and worse.
About 12 years later the truth actually came out and so no one now believes I was capable of such an act. But for years they did. the shame was terrible to live with. People can be so cruel. (of course, it wasn't on the news or anything) It was so awful, because the way the "evidence' looked, it all pointed to me. (Although I did voluntarily take a lie detector test, several actually, and passed them, that didn't help me in court-or change anyones mind about me.)
Anyway, it's really a long story-too much to explain it all-but what I'm trying to say is that people can be innocent and no one believe them because of the situation. The worst part was, at the time, I had to try to forgive them because I knew I probably wouldn't have believed me either, had I been on the outside of the situation, looking in. I hated knowing that about myself, that I would probably not have believed me either and would have condemned me too had I been outside the situation. But it taught me never to assume someone is guilty without really knowing again. No one knows what really happens if they weren't there to see it. No one knows another persons motives, or what is in their heart.
In my case, I immediately took my child for medical attention when I discovered she was hurt-unlike the way KC handled things and I understand and agree with everyone's criticism and suspiscion of her because of that. I don't, however agree with all the suspicion of GA and CA and LA.
I'm just saying it bothers me to see so many people state things as if they know there was some kind of cover up on George and Cindy's part. I respectfully would like to say that here is NO PROOF of that. Denial yes, proof of a deliberate cover up, no. Proof of a deliberate murder, no.
MOO--just trying to give a different perspective on things. Not trying to argue with anyone. "
