Everything you all have said, right back at you. What a lovely, crazy bunch, and through this forum I have met some lifelong friends. Thank you.
Allison would have been utterly amazed and slightly bewildered at the care and support from people who did, and didn't know her. Rest in peace now, dear Al. Your babies are safe.
Glad the thread can still continue, such a lot of stuff has come to the fore ....
Tishy, your words "Allison would have been utterly amazed and slightly bewildered... etc"
Strange thing is these thoughts have been resonating with me much, of late.....
This is the silent shadow behind many a Domestic Violence Situation. Not comprehending.
I believe that Allison had no inkling of what her husband was capable of. In regards to murder that is...
I believe she might have pegged him for a twit. He might have needed extra love, needed a helping hand. Etc... (She willing gave this, as evidenced by supplying him with a job at Flight Centre, etc) I believe she might have realized that it must be she, who must carry the reins. (He was incapable, despite his empty talk).
I believe she trusted her husband. With her children, with her whole being, with her life. I believe she thought he was capable of change.... because she loved him ....
It is quite possible the word Narcissist had never entered her vocabulary.
That the words "Life Insurance Policy, Adultery, Financial Woes, Liar, Cheat, and Fraud (and possibly Nincompoop); all in the one sentence; might equal a potentially very Dangerous Red Alert Situation.
When he decided to monitor her every movement, her conversations, her friends, her own family, did she know or realize was this might be a clandestine control manoeuvre?
So many hidden facets of domestic violence in this very sad story.