daisy.faithfull
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Yes, if Melissa's family has the opportunity, I think they will urge her to settle this without a trial. Perhaps they will succeed. Hopefully, she will not want to bring more shame on her family -- particularly her grandfather.
Wow Winnow, your bring a really interesting perspective to this. Of course that is the beauty of WS, but I just really had not thought of looking at MH in the way you are presenting.
I can see where you are coming from with MH's family possibly being able to influence her, I would really like to know who exactly from her family is visiting or writing letters, and the frequency of those communications. Of couse I would love to know the content of those communications.
When you say that she may not want to bring shame to her grandfather in particular I'm interested to know why you would think that.
When Melissa was in court, I saw a deeply conflicted woman. When the word "rape" was uttered, she cringed and seemingly came close to losing it. It was as though the REALITY of the situation flooded over her. Now don't get all upset with me.... I think if she thought she had the glimmer of a chance to "spin" a different story, she would be off and running with new lies and excuses.
There was a psychological analyst on JVM that said she interpreted the emotional outburst of MH to her charges to MH having been the victim of this herself. If so it is beyond tragic that it took this for her to connect with reality and realize what she was doing to Sandra. Right now I am just praying that there are not other children who suffered at the hands of MH.
I think I recall that she tried to plead mental incapacity for the most recent theft case. She was ordered to be assessed by two court appointed doctors and was found to be competent, but mentally ill.
And I am not saying that she is not mentally ill. She IS. IMO But there seem to be "cracks" that let just a bit of light in. I think she tries to "play the game" as long as she thinks she can get away with it, but when nothing is working, she surrenders (briefly). I think that is why she said, shortly after her arrest, that it was an "accident". I also think that the note and all of her other clues were attempts to end the suspense and bring the search for SC to an end.
If she did plead mental incapacity for the theft it makes me just so mad that she did not get help before she reached the point of committing this horrible crime. To me it indicates that she knew she had problems and knew there were people that could help. But I understand how that plea could have been a "crack" that for a short time she let reality shine in.
I guess I have been seeing mental health and MH's pathology in a black and white, all or nothing type way. That everything she does is manipulative, exploitive, etc. It especially makes sense to me when we look at MH's life, or what we know of it, and seem to see that there is a progression of the behaviors as she was gradually overcome by them.
Some mentally ill people just finally get tired of trying to weave the web of deception -- especially when they have been "caught". It takes a lot of energy. The only problem is that, if they have a chance to "re-charge", they start to "play the manipulation/lies & excuses/blame game" again, sinking deeper each time into more denial.
That criminals can re-charge and in a sense are given a haven to regroup and prepare for the next confrontation to their pathology is horrifying to me. If that is the case it seems to follow that the pathologies are given even more strength. That is an argument for why we need treatment in our prisons.
It also makes me wonder how enforced treatment will affect MH's plea, as I am sure that she is being forced to at least be medicated if a psychological evaluation deems that necessary. Does it allow reality in enough so that MH will see more fully what she has done? Or will other defense mechanisms come in to "protect" herself from those realizations? If her family is in denial of MH's guilt, especially if they have a pattern of denying her mental illness in the past, does that then adversely affect the chances she will admit her guilt?
Two possible parallel truths... Pathological liar and deeply dishonest and manipulative. And just under the surface, a fragile, fragmented person. This does not excuse her in any way, shape or form.
Mental illness is complex. I know from firsthand experience with someone I loved. I don't think Melissa is totally Evil -- as some might like to think. Her mental illness may have progressed to the point that she doesn't even know who she is anymore.
So are you saying that there is a progression from dishonest, to deeply dishonest to pathological liar? It makes sense that as her manipulation of the facts became more and more detached from reality, she lied more and more to herself as well, in effect not knowing the truth of herself.
Once again, I had not thought to look at it this way, it does have me thinking about how society can look at MH's case and look at ways that our mental health system can help to prevent atrocities like this from occurring if those suffering want to reach out for this help.
Pleading guilty to save herself from the DP and both families further anguish would give her life in prison (separated from her own daughter) and "without the possibility of parole" to come to terms with the consequences of her actions.
Interesting, very interesting. To be honest my thoughts on her receiving a life behind bars have been much more vengeful, that she would have to sit with the guilt and knowledge that she did something so monstrous with relatively little distraction. You have put more than a few cracks in my thinking regarding this case. Don't you dare go working with the defense!