He was in two relationships. It was shared in the police report info linked in thread. He was selling his house. Linked in thread.
Thanks! I’m caught up now. It’s interesting reading an entire case it one sitting. Not something I’d done before and it’s definitely different. Seeing all the information so quickly I didn’t dwell on a particular nugget of info while waiting for new news. So I didn’t get as set on a point of view as I usually do.
You guys have done a good job gathering the facts and making sense of them. I found myself nodding a lot as I read.
I still think this is likely a voluntary disappearance, but I’m less convinced. Could have been suicide or started out as a disappearance and days/weeks later he decided to kill himself. My mind is even somewhat open to foul play. Though if someone harmed him I don’t think it was a random stranger. And I don’t think it was an accident or heart attack. Too much weirdness right before the disappearance for coincidence.
A few observations/thoughts:
— If the missing person report was correct and police had contact w/him on 8/6 that timing is important
— this guy had two girlfriends that we know of, there may be more. He was texting w/the local one when he got back. Not meeting her for a hug. Not calling to hear her voice. Doesn’t sound like he was that into her. I’m really wondering, with all his travel, if there’s not some special woman out there —the one that got away — that he decided he just has to be with. About to turn 50, his current relationship had just ended, job pressures were awful, COVID, criminal investigation, possible jail. What better time to run away and go live the dream?
— POA for the house sale/trust doesn’t mean there’s a POA for other aspects of his life, so his bank accounts may still be off limit without a warrant. As a realtor most POAs I deal with are limited to real estate transactions. I find it quite interesting that the house was moved to a trust so quickly after his disappearance though. Either he planned it in advance (signaling he knew he’d be absent) or whoever had POA sure didn’t waste time waiting to see if he’d come back.
— Laying off people is hard, and in his position he most likely was the one making the call as to who would be let go. And his employees knew it. Someone who hadn’t been let go yet but thought he had it personally out for them could be even more dangerous than an employee already dismissed. This doesn’t feel like an angry
employee to me, but something to keep in mind if you like the disgruntled employee theory.
— I didn’t see anything that indicated he was about to lose his job. His position is mission critical and United seemed to be happy with him from what we can tell. In my experience people at his level are kept to pick up the pieces after a downsizing.
— I take all the drinking talk with a grain of salt. The initial report said “he appeared to be inebriated” the evening of 8/6. That’s based on the report of the family member he had dinner with, which we now know was his son who reported back to his mom. That’s morphed to “extremely drunk” and I get the impression the ex-wife helped that along. I know the CA girlfriend said he’d maybe been drinking more than usual, but I also get the impression that was said after being asked by the cop who called if he had been drinking more than usual. After the ex-wife had planted the drinking problem seed. Perhaps he only had a couple of extra glasses of wine w/dinner during his most recent visit. Or maybe he was falling down drunk. I don’t think we know and think it’s important not to assume he was in the midst of a downward alcoholic spiral. That’s a lot to saddle onto a potential victim. Plus, assuming he’s too drunk to reason may color interpretation of the facts.
I sure hope we find out what happened to this man! I feel terrible for his children.
One last thing— Is anyone else getting a vibe that there’s no love lost on the part of ex-Ms?
