"“What happened is always right there, right at the surface,” said Angela Bieghler, the middle school’s counselor. “Whatever the conversation is, it comes back to Abby and Libby. Every conversation – which has been totally understandable.”
The past year, Gustin said, has been a matter of protecting kids as much as possible in the school of 360, spread across sixth-, seventh- and eighth grades.
The past year also has been 12 months of firsts.
The first time a community of counselors and pastors felt compelled to ring the buzzer at the middle school’s main entrance, streaming in around lunchtime that Wednesday after police confirmed that Abby and Libby had been killed. (“They just knew to come,” Bieghler, the middle school’s lone counselor, said. “And we were glad they did.”
The first time FBI agents came to the school to gently call grieving friends aside to find out all the eighth-graders could tell about the girls.
The first time kids brought cellphones to the principal’s office to show Snapchat feeds that might help in the investigation. (“Our kids were doing everything they knew how to do,” Gustin said. “They wanted to catch this guy.”
More recently, the first swim meet without Libby racing with the team. Last weekend, the first state solo and ensemble band competitions. (Both girls played saxophone.)
The last of those firsts will come this week in the anniversary for a school small enough that Gustin calls it a family.
“At the beginning of the year we said it’s OK to not be OK,” Bieghler said.
Still, they saw students who wanted teachers to know they were angry and didn’t know why.
Bieghler set up a system so students could email her from their classrooms when they were feeling stressed or overwhelmed, and she could quietly ask them to report to the office to talk things out. And Gustin said teachers tried to emphasize just how much support the school had received from surrounding communities, including cards, visits, volunteers and even comfort dogs from schools in surrounding counties.
“Look at all the kindness from people who don’t really know us,” Gustin said. “The community’s been amazing, and that’s what we try to stress to the kids.”
There won’t be assemblies or memorials at the school Tuesday or Wednesday for the anniversary. Teachers will be on point just the same, Gustin said. Same goes for the day when police say they’ve caught the killer and all those emotions flow again. Whenever that is.
“We’re thinking about that all the time, too,” Bieghler said.
“I get that it’s ‘a case’ for a lot of people,” Gustin said. “This is our family. It’s not just something on the news. These are our girls.”"
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