IN -Terry and Darleen Anderson Murder, Mungo, 22 Oct 2005 - #1

[BigRMV]

Greetings Ladies and Gentlemen. This is my first post so please bear with me.

I found this site quite by accident while doing some other research and started reading. I was struck by the number of cases here. This one in particular really got my attention. So much so that I registered as a Websleuths user.

Let me start by saying how sorry I am for the loss to you and your family, Rosco. I've read the posts and linked pages. It appears to me that Dark Knight, Blaize, and several others have offered very good information. I'd like to add my 2 cents.



It seems to me that LE is honestly working on the case--as evidenced by the FBI involvement--and probably suspects 'A' and accomplices, but doesn't have that one piece of conclusive evidence to tie it all together, hence LE's silence. I don't know what that missing link may be, but I'd like to point out something from the newspaper articles written immediately after the crimes that seem to have been overlooked (even by DK).

In the Kendallville News-Sun article by Megan Hockley that DK posted on 10/10/06 (post #83), ‘A’ is quoted as saying, "We're going to make their dreams our dreams. Dad wanted a full wrap-around porch, to tear down the barn, new siding. There's electrical work to do. Mom wanted new curtains, new furniture.”

But in the same article, the man listed as his “best friend, Bill Gage” is quoted as saying “Terry's barn was bigger than his house and included a large storage area, a tool shed and workroom and his hunting cabin."Every time he got an extra $500, $600, he'd call the Amish men. ‘I want to build on. Frame it up.' "


Statements in this and other articles posted by DK around 10/10/06 indicate that the house was Darleen’s to “fill up” as she wanted but that the barn was Terry’s. In fact, one article mentions how Eric Musilek, Sherry’s husband, “cleaned up the barn where Terry Anderson was killed – a barn he helped him build a few years back.”


Now, it seems to me that if Terry was proud of that relatively new barn, stored all of his valuables in it, spent spare cash to improve upon it whenever he could, then it couldn’t have been something “Dad wanted” as described by ‘A’ above. There seems to be a preponderance of evidence to the contrary.


I would point these recorded statements out to LE and the DA, just to light a fire under them. It’s possible that the investigators are well aware of these statements, but then again, they may have overlooked them as some of our esteemed fellow websleuths have.

 

[BigRMV]

I know I can be long winded and didn’t want to detract from the point in my previous post, ergo this one. Rosco, I’d like to take the liberty of making a (time consuming) suggestion to you and your kin involved in this effort. That is: Start a timeline of the facts--as you know them--pertaining to your parents covering the time period a few months before, during, and through present day. Keep the facts concise and in chronological order. Use manilla folders, notebooks, 3 by 5 index cards or whatever works to soft and store these facts. Just put them in order as best as you can. Once you feel you’ve done that, stop and walk away for a day or a week. Focus on something other than this case and those facts. It will be difficult to forget, I’m sure. But try.


After the “away time” come back to your timeline and look through your data from start to finish. You may find that stepping back from it will give you a new perspective and allow you to find omissions or inconsistencies that will help the investigation or, at least, your peace of mind.

 

[Rosco]

I had not heard of these murders till today. I live in Central Indiana about 30 miles south of Inpls.
I am truly sorry for your loss Rosco. Where is money coming from for the renovation of the house? Did A know 1st hand that you were posting on Topix? Is Topix a local forum or is it worldwide?

Thanks for posting and reading and posting. I know that a few of my Dad's friends are from that area of IND.

I do not know where the money is coming from for renovations. There was no savings account - and I know that for truth. She had JUST moved out less than 6 months before the murders took place. She JUST got the job about 18months prior. Parents paid for truck payment and cell phone.. clothes.. food. She 'played' with her money from job. She had NO WAY of saving that kind of money from working less than 2 yrs on a job. She received 50K on her 21st b-day (last Feb) from our grandfather. I knew of that for over 15yrs...and she also knew it. I do believe "X" knew of that it too. LE confirmed to me she received that money. LE knows what she is buying and her actions. They share very very little with me of what they know but has shared some.

I don't know if she knows I posted on topix. I posted that months ago in hopes of maybe getting the word out. I am on-line all day and have posted my loss everywhere. Can't get any bites if I don't keep fishing... "quote from my dad". I am not afraid of anything or anyone. I am angry and wish that someone will have the nerve to challenge me. Every single post on the WS I type is the truth of either I experienced/heard it with my own ears/ or viewed it with my own eyes. Can't hide the truth and true feelings. Actions speak louder than words.

 

[LionRun]

Very good points Big. There are sooo many contradictions and things that just stand out in this that it is hard to keep up with.


Rosco, did you tell LE about this sight? The many posts and info may help with their investigation. Even if some things we think or say are off base, these posts may spark their thoughts and help in finding who committed such terrible acts.

 

[Rosco]

I know I can be long winded and didn’t want to detract from the point in my previous post, ergo this one. Rosco, I’d like to take the liberty of making a (time consuming) suggestion to you and your kin involved in this effort. That is: Start a timeline of the facts--as you know them--pertaining to your parents covering the time period a few months before, during, and through present day. Keep the facts concise and in chronological order. Use manilla folders, notebooks, 3 by 5 index cards or whatever works to soft and store these facts. Just put them in order as best as you can. Once you feel you’ve done that, stop and walk away for a day or a week. Focus on something other than this case and those facts. It will be difficult to forget, I’m sure. But try.


After the “away time” come back to your timeline and look through your data from start to finish. You may find that stepping back from it will give you a new perspective and allow you to find omissions or inconsistencies that will help the investigation or, at least, your peace of mind.

Thank you very much for your post. I read the other too.

I will truly try and work on this. This seems to be a really great idea to keep thoughts in order.

 

[dottierainbow]

Yes, A has to know for a fact you posted on Topix because she posted after you did therefore she read your posts. I was wondering if she was trying to keep tabs on you to see what you know or suspect.
Rosco whoever did this I hope and pray they have a conscience and they slip up. I believe all darkness will be exposed by light sooner or later. Keep up the good work.

 

[Rosco]

Greetings Ladies and Gentlemen. This is my first post so please bear with me.

I found this site quite by accident while doing some other research and started reading. I was struck by the number of cases here. This one in particular really got my attention. So much so that I registered as a Websleuths user.

Let me start by saying how sorry I am for the loss to you and your family, Rosco. I've read the posts and linked pages. It appears to me that Dark Knight, Blaize, and several others have offered very good information. I'd like to add my 2 cents.



It seems to me that LE is honestly working on the case--as evidenced by the FBI involvement--and probably suspects 'A' and accomplices, but doesn't have that one piece of conclusive evidence to tie it all together, hence LE's silence. I don't know what that missing link may be, but I'd like to point out something from the newspaper articles written immediately after the crimes that seem to have been overlooked (even by DK).

In the Kendallville News-Sun article by Megan Hockley that DK posted on 10/10/06 (post #83), ‘A’ is quoted as saying, "We're going to make their dreams our dreams. Dad wanted a full wrap-around porch, to tear down the barn, new siding. There's electrical work to do. Mom wanted new curtains, new furniture.”

But in the same article, the man listed as his “best friend, Bill Gage” is quoted as saying “Terry's barn was bigger than his house and included a large storage area, a tool shed and workroom and his hunting cabin."Every time he got an extra $500, $600, he'd call the Amish men. ‘I want to build on. Frame it up.' "


Statements in this and other articles posted by DK around 10/10/06 indicate that the house was Darleen’s to “fill up” as she wanted but that the barn was Terry’s. In fact, one article mentions how Eric Musilek, Sherry’s husband, “cleaned up the barn where Terry Anderson was killed – a barn he helped him build a few years back.”


Now, it seems to me that if Terry was proud of that relatively new barn, stored all of his valuables in it, spent spare cash to improve upon it whenever he could, then it couldn’t have been something “Dad wanted” as described by ‘A’ above. There seems to be a preponderance of evidence to the contrary.


I would point these recorded statements out to LE and the DA, just to light a fire under them. It’s possible that the investigators are well aware of these statements, but then again, they may have overlooked them as some of our esteemed fellow websleuths have.

Dad LOVED his barn. Just loved the outdoors and being in that barn. Wow.. I could not tell you how he just took every amount of energy to the barn - but he also enjoyed house. He built the back porch and upstairs. Fixed the garage a few years back and added the front addition to the house about 8yrs ago. He just liked to fix things. But as a favorite for Dad was the barn. I can say that Dad or Darleen was not that ready to re-do the entire house as what is being done. Dad's basement would seap water/leak water and the foundation is not good. Standing water all the time in the basement. Needed to be re-done. Also, can't imagine why needing a new roof when dad just put a roof on the house about 4 yrs ago. I know cuz it was the same time my brother put his roof on his house in California. They talked about it - same time. There were/are allot more important issues with the house that needed to get done before a wood porch or siding!!!

Let me tell you Bill Gage is and will never be a friend of mine. He refuses to give DNA to LE. Said that LE is trying to pin the murders on someone and he does not want to be the one. My husband 'called him out' regarding that issue when we found out about him not wanting to cooperate. He said he would but has not... to our understanding. We do not talk to him anymore. I truly believe he knows something too!! He has taken part in my family's home and my dad's gargage like it is his property. Got all my father's ice fishing gear... BUT did my son get a pole??? NOTHING.. not one pole for my son.

 

[LionRun]

Dad LOVED his barn. Just loved the outdoors and being in that barn. Wow.. I could not tell you how he just took every amount of energy to the barn - but he also enjoyed house. He built the back porch and upstairs. Fixed the garage a few years back and added the front addition to the house about 8yrs ago. He just liked to fix things. But as a favorite for Dad was the barn. I can say that Dad or Darleen was not that ready to re-do the entire house as what is being done. Dad's basement would seap water/leak water and the foundation is not good. Standing water all the time in the basement. Needed to be re-done. Also, can't imagine why needing a new roof when dad just put a roof on the house about 4 yrs ago. I know cuz it was the same time my brother put his roof on his house in California. They talked about it - same time. There were/are allot more important issues with the house that needed to get done before a wood porch or siding!!!

Let me tell you Bill Gage is and will never be a friend of mine. He refuses to give DNA to LE. Said that LE is trying to pin the murders on someone and he does not want to be the one. My husband 'called him out' regarding that issue when we found out about him not wanting to cooperate. He said he would but has not... to our understanding. We do not talk to him anymore. I truly believe he knows something too!! He has taken part in my family's home and my dad's gargage like it is his property. Got all my father's ice fishing gear... BUT did my son get a pole??? NOTHING.. not one pole for my son.

But, your dad would not have wanted the barn to be torn down, right? That would not make any sense.

Please tell me how Bill Gage fits in to all of this. I'm a little confused. Thanks. I'll do a search on him in the meantime.

Okay, I searched posts and know now that he was reportedly Terry's best friend. I remember reading that post; but, I did not recall Bill Gage's name.

Why would he be so afraid to give DNA to LE? I might be sightly nervous. I once was required to take a pre-screen drug test for a job. They took hair samples. I was a little concerned because about a year prior to the test I had been in the hospital with pneumonia. I wondered if the vast amount of drugs they gave in the hospital would show up. It didn't, and I got the job. However, my concern didn't stop me from taking the test because I had nothing to hide and all could be explained. I think it is possible that BG was just concerned because he was genuinely afraid that he might be falsely indicated. I would not take him off the list though.

What is the relationship between BG and A if any? What is the relationship between BG and X if any? For how long were BG and Terry, "best friends?" How did BG and Terry meet? How did Darleen feel about BG? Were they also friends? Is BG still involved in A's life? Does he have property of your parents"?

I have a gut feeling that this will be solved, and I want to see this through. I think there are others who feel the same. Best to you Rosco.

Do you know yet if LE has a link and are (hopefully) monitoring this site?

 

[Rosco]

But, your dad would not have wanted the barn to be torn down, right? That would not make any sense.

Please tell me how Bill Gage fits in to all of this. I'm a little confused. Thanks. I'll do a search on him in the meantime.

Sorry - not very clear. The 'pole barn' is/was his new baby. The old red barn (like on the movies) was what he wanted torn down. HOWEVER - I know my dad wanted the old red barn to be taken down board/board. He wanted to save the good wood for the 'new pole barn' and other things for the house. He built the pole barn and was waiting to take the red barn down to store the wood - after the pole barn was finished. He needed a place to store the wood and other things that he had in the red barn. Wanted to build something with the old wood. Plans on Amish to help take down old red barn along with my husband. Talked about it all the time. Instead "X" told town folk that they had a 'barn burning party'.. They burned the old red barn up instead of taking it down and keeping what Dad wanted... the good wood.. The old barn was well over 100yrs old..and there were still plenty of wonderful wood that could have been used up. My husband is so upset over them burning the red barn. He really knew what Dad wanted to do and it's obvious they did not!

 

[Rosco]

But, your dad would not have wanted the barn to be torn down, right? That would not make any sense.

Please tell me how Bill Gage fits in to all of this. I'm a little confused. Thanks. I'll do a search on him in the meantime.

Bill Gage is/was a friend of my fathers. Apparently god-father to my sister. I do not believe that to be true. Remember I came into my dad's life when I was about 19yrs old..and sister was a toddler - maybe 2yrs. I did not know of a god-father for Amanda and dad never spoke about it. Bill gage is also 15yrs younger than dad would be. That would have made bill in his 20's when my sister was born.. Dad was 40. I can't imagine a close relationship with bill and dad at that time to warrent god-father rights. Dad has friends that are closer to his age and were close to him for most of his life in Mongo - they would warrent that respect as god-father. Not Gage. But - that needs to be researched. That information is public and I do plan on checking into that - I do believe that services would have taken place in Mongo at the Methodist Church were Darleen attended. Dad and Darleen did not attend mass regularly. I don't believe they did for years... so prior to me knowing them it could have been an important part in Darleen's /Dad's life. Dad was a drunk at that time in his life and did not do much of anything for God - so I don't think it was Dad. Bill gage also seems to have allot of time to help with the remodeling and the money to buy my dad's personal property at auctions. But he's always drove a vehicle with at least 20yrs on the machine.. NEVER a new car/truck. Job is also below average for $$$. I do not and never liked him from the start. Always seemed to have a smile like he was hiding something. He was the kind of person who (as a woman) would look at you and think that he was undressing you or viewing you with some freak way.. A woman would probably understand what I am saying more than a man would. Some men have looks that just scream pervert or something.. just not a nice feeling to be looked at.

 

[BigRMV]

Rosco,

Thanks for the clarification on the 2 barns. That makes me rethink my original opinions a bit about 'A'.

It does initially seem that 'A' knew the person(s) who did this heinous thing or knew something about it. But if I recall from what I've read here, she may be about 21 or 22 now(?). It's possible that she sees her actions as 'normal' and thinks the rest of the family is wrong. Remember, if she did stumble across a scene such as this it could have had a traumatic affect on her. Her seemingly bizarre actions could be her way of coping with something that she'd rather not think about.

I'm not saying 'A' is or isn't involved. I'm just reitterating my earlier suggestion to step back from this for a time and look at it from every possible angle--including one where 'A' had nothing to do with it. Once you've had a chance to distance the data from the emotions (hard to do, I'm sure) you will know that the facts left over are pure. The truth will then filter through.

About the facts timeline, I think it might be helpful for the rest of us if you could illustrate for us what a 'normal' day or week in the life of Terry and Darleen would've been like in the months before the crime.

For example: How often did 'A' work with your dad? I got the impression that this was not an every day occurence. If it wasn't, then I have to think it was suspiciously coincidental that she'd be picking Terry up for work that day. Think about it: Was the house on her way to the job? If not, she could've gone to work and met him there. If so, that might not be unusual. But if she doesn't work with him alot, then you'd have to think that the odds were greater that a co-worker would've called to inquire about his unexpected absence or that the bodies would've been discovered during the course of a normal visit. Being able to compare the routine to the unusual would help greatly.

Also, I do think it was strange that LE thought it was OK to destroy the couch when DNA or other evidence may have been present. And to let the crime scene be used for what is essentially an open house event just days later is unimaginable. But, as the papers all indicated, this seems to be a "first of its kind" event in that community. Still, it makes me wonder who the lead LE investigator is and was HE a friend of the family.

In any event, please keep us posted, Rosco.

 

[Rosco]

Rosco,

Thanks for the clarification on the 2 barns. That makes me rethink my original opinions a bit about 'A'.

It does initially seem that 'A' knew the person(s) who did this heinous thing or knew something about it. But if I recall from what I've read here, she may be about 21 or 22 now(?). It's possible that she sees her actions as 'normal' and thinks the rest of the family is wrong. Remember, if she did stumble across a scene such as this it could have had a traumatic affect on her. Her seemingly bizarre actions could be her way of coping with something that she'd rather not think about.

I'm not saying 'A' is or isn't involved. I'm just reitterating my earlier suggestion to step back from this for a time and look at it from every possible angle--including one where 'A' had nothing to do with it. Once you've had a chance to distance the data from the emotions (hard to do, I'm sure) you will know that the facts left over are pure. The truth will then filter through.

About the facts timeline, I think it might be helpful for the rest of us if you could illustrate for us what a 'normal' day or week in the life of Terry and Darleen would've been like in the months before the crime.

For example: How often did 'A' work with your dad? I got the impression that this was not an every day occurence. If it wasn't, then I have to think it was suspiciously coincidental that she'd be picking Terry up for work that day. Think about it: Was the house on her way to the job? If not, she could've gone to work and met him there. If so, that might not be unusual. But if she doesn't work with him alot, then you'd have to think that the odds were greater that a co-worker would've called to inquire about his unexpected absence or that the bodies would've been discovered during the course of a normal visit. Being able to compare the routine to the unusual would help greatly.

Also, I do think it was strange that LE thought it was OK to destroy the couch when DNA or other evidence may have been present. And to let the crime scene be used for what is essentially an open house event just days later is unimaginable. But, as the papers all indicated, this seems to be a "first of its kind" event in that community. Still, it makes me wonder who the lead LE investigator is and was HE a friend of the family.

In any event, please keep us posted, Rosco.

Great thoughts BigRMV.


Let me say first that I truly DO NOT and CAN NOT believe that my sister could inflict any harm onto my Dad and her mother. Truly it is unimaginable and to this moment I can not view it as such. I DO think she knows something. That she knows SOMETHING and is not sharing. I can understand at her young age of 21yrs, her thinking is totally different than middle aged. Also drugs can influence thoughts. I agree that having this horrific situation and VIEWING the crime is unimaginable and sure could/can place your mind in a mode of bizarre activity. I ponder those thoughts every single moment I am awake. So am I supposed to just forget all the actions and negative replies and conversations that took place then and now? Imagine all the bizarre activity took place mainly because of her age and what she experienced? One would think that something this horrific can bring out your true emotions. I guess that is what I and vitually every person I spoke to would think. Not thinking about re-doing a house.

Dad worked at same company but different jobs. Dad cut trees. "A" job was estimates. Job was not on the way to Dad's place. Not a huge surprise for them to meet up at house since they all worked at same place and "X" actually worked close with Dad. Possible of the change with co-worker. Job would have known more about that issue as well as I am sure LE has investigated. "X" actually worked together with Dad and job. They were together all the time. "A" and "X" lived together. They just moved in together a few months prior to murder. Dad and Darleen's routine was same. Work, home, dinner, bed. Dad would go to meetings and such. Work on his pole-barn or boat w/fishing gear. It was fall and I know Dad was getting the yard ready for winter. Cutting wood. Fixing John Deer tractor. Waiting for us to visit in 3 weeks for hunting season. Darleen might go shopping or visit. Normally it was work and home. I was 20-21yrs old not long ago. If I seen my mother's face crushed in, I would not be able to leave that padded room without help! That's just me.
I do not understand the house being open either. Made me think of the Ramsey case and LE not properly doing job. I pray that is/was not in this case. I feel there was/is so much more that could have been done at the crime scene. I was not there and I do not know who did what. I just pray that is was complete and accurate.

 

[Rosco]

Happy New Year Dad and Darleen.

You two are always in my thoughts and prayers. I looked at your cell phone number on my phone today. I won't delete it until this case is solved. I give you both that promise.

Love you.

 

[Dark Knight]

I was telling Rosco that this crime is starting to remind me of Lizzie Borden's alleged crime. Very similar in execution, certainly (no pun intended.)

Anyone else see the similarities?

 

[LionRun]

I was telling Rosco that this crime is starting to remind me of Lizzie Borden's alleged crime. Very similar in execution, certainly (no pun intended.)

Anyone else see the similarities?

Indeed I do Dark Knight. One thing seems different though. I have gotten the impression that Lizzies parents were not loving people with endearing qualities. Then again, I wonder how accurate what I heard was.

I do see the haunting similarities though.

Lion

 

[Dark Knight]

http://rss.topix.net/forum/city/lag...5QGA40#lastPost

There are some new posts at the above thread from "A" and a name was dropped by an anonymous poster.

 

[Rosco]

http://rss.topix.net/forum/city/lag...5QGA40#lastPost

There are some new posts at the above thread from "A" and a name was dropped by an anonymous poster.

Barry Gose is a cousin of Dwayne Gose. Dwayne and I had seen each other in Oct at the grave-site as well as on TV. Dwayne and his wife broke bread with us during that time and we shared tears. Dwayne is good people. Close to me and family. I have LE looking into the where-abouts of Barry Gose during Oct 2005. LE will be aware of posts.

Maybe a flicker of hope showing thru all this fog... PRAYING!

 

[ariel7]

Hello all,

Just stopping in with a few comments, I guess. I know of this
case through DK and have read A's posts on the other forum
and such...

When I first read one of her postings, I was disturbed...
greatly. Putting MYSELF in her place, I wondered HOW I'd react...
how MOST people would. Granted, we are ALL unique individuals,
and no two people will handle something the same way,
STILL....

Things I've wondered: What WAS A's relationship like with her
folks?

If it was a strained relationship, if there was distance and hurt
feelings and whatnot, I know that if it were me, I'd feel ALL
the worse after their horrific murder... it would consume me.
The guilt, the wish I could've, wish I would've... what if...
Life would not march merrily along, how could it?

Whether a strained or a good relationship, we instinctively
want to preserve things that link us to our loved ones...
IF we miss them. That is what keep parents hoping year
after year that their missing child will return... that makes
them keep the room JUST as it was... That is what made
my own dear (departed) grandpa keep his beloveds purse
where she left it, for OVER a month after she was gone.
It was familiar... it was hers, how could he move it or
change it? No longer having them in our lives, how can
we remove ALL things that remind us of them? It is
an unnatural thing, to my thinking. (again, maybe some
would HAVE to for the torment of it... but that'd SHOW
in their day to day life, in their words, in the haunted
look on their face)

IF however, we are GLAD to be rid of someone, we do
NOT seek to keep those things that remind us of them.
Of course not! Out with the old, IN with the new AND
FAST!!!! I do not keep things from my ex...
A severely abused child does not often keep things
that remind him/her of those years...

IF there is GUILT involved, for example, you committed
a crime (*OR* you KNOW much more about it than you
DARE say), OF COURSE you want no reminders... OUT damned
spot! Out, I say! in the words of Lady MacBeth...
in the actions of Scott Peterson: hmm, wanting to sell the
house---furnished, getting rid of Laci's car, dumping those
things in the trash at his storage unit, deleting messages
before he even heard them all....

I wonder DID Terry and Darleen REALLY want the house
renovated? Did they chat about it casually and wistfully to
whomever would visit... or whenever? Was it REALLY a dream
of theirs VERIFIED by others? Or is this simply A's word.
If it really was a dream of theirs, then forgive my doubts
in her regard... I do hope they are unfounded, of course, for
who wants to think that such a terrifying crime could have
had it's genesis or even a part in one so close to those
murdered so viciously. We want it to be a ruthless stranger.
Sadly, that is MORE often than not, NOT the reality.
If it wasn't their dream, then her actions disturb me.
The casualty with which she speaks of remodelling disturbs
me... the thoroughness of it does also. The way in which
she grumbles jokingly about the burdens of it... all whilst
she is SO pregnant... It just doesn't sit right.

I do NOT know her heart... but I can SEE (in small part) her
actions... are they the actions of one grieving? Are they the
actions of one HOPING against hope the killers are found?
What would any of us do in her shoes? Life MUST keep on
going, of course. No one would want their loved ones to
grieve forever..................but.........

AND, could I EVER feel secure in that house?
TRULY SECURE?
Would I want to bring a baby into it with the killers uncaught?

That would haunt me as well.

Actually, I'd ALSO have a hard time changing anything for fear that
there was a clue...something left behind that someone might
have missed...

Think I lost my train of thought in my ramblings...
Oh, I feel almost guilty and mean for posting this... may their
killers be brought to justice and the truth be known.
I hope I am WAY off base in my musings.

With love and prayers,

Ariel:blowkiss:

 

[ariel7]

Happy New Year Dad and Darleen.

You two are always in my thoughts and prayers. I looked at your cell phone number on my phone today. I won't delete it until this case is solved. I give you both that promise.

Love you.

THIS is what I am talking about!!!!!
We just DON'T.............CAN'T so easily "delete" these things
when life seems to be on hold waiting for justice.
A's actions to me are EXTREMELY suspicious.

Sorry, Rosco, *BIGGEST HUGS*, I didn't realize who you were
at first. May God grant you your heart's desire in this...
and give you peace while you wait and strength to carry on!

With MUCH love,

Ariel

 

[Rosco]

Hello all,

Just stopping in with a few comments, I guess. I know of this
case through DK and have read A's posts on the other forum
and such...

When I first read one of her postings, I was disturbed...
greatly. Putting MYSELF in her place, I wondered HOW I'd react...
how MOST people would. Granted, we are ALL unique individuals,
and no two people will handle something the same way,
STILL....

Things I've wondered: What WAS A's relationship like with her
folks?

If it was a strained relationship, if there was distance and hurt
feelings and whatnot, I know that if it were me, I'd feel ALL
the worse after their horrific murder... it would consume me.
The guilt, the wish I could've, wish I would've... what if...
Life would not march merrily along, how could it?

Whether a strained or a good relationship, we instinctively
want to preserve things that link us to our loved ones...
IF we miss them. That is what keep parents hoping year
after year that their missing child will return... that makes
them keep the room JUST as it was... That is what made
my own dear (departed) grandpa keep his beloveds purse
where she left it, for OVER a month after she was gone.
It was familiar... it was hers, how could he move it or
change it? No longer having them in our lives, how can
we remove ALL things that remind us of them? It is
an unnatural thing, to my thinking. (again, maybe some
would HAVE to for the torment of it... but that'd SHOW
in their day to day life, in their words, in the haunted
look on their face)

IF however, we are GLAD to be rid of someone, we do
NOT seek to keep those things that remind us of them.
Of course not! Out with the old, IN with the new AND
FAST!!!! I do not keep things from my ex...
A severely abused child does not often keep things
that remind him/her of those years...

IF there is GUILT involved, for example, you committed
a crime (*OR* you KNOW much more about it than you
DARE say), OF COURSE you want no reminders... OUT damned
spot! Out, I say! in the words of Lady MacBeth...
in the actions of Scott Peterson: hmm, wanting to sell the
house---furnished, getting rid of Laci's car, dumping those
things in the trash at his storage unit, deleting messages
before he even heard them all....

I wonder DID Terry and Darleen REALLY want the house
renovated? Did they chat about it casually and wistfully to
whomever would visit... or whenever? Was it REALLY a dream
of theirs VERIFIED by others? Or is this simply A's word.
If it really was a dream of theirs, then forgive my doubts
in her regard... I do hope they are unfounded, of course, for
who wants to think that such a terrifying crime could have
had it's genesis or even a part in one so close to those
murdered so viciously. We want it to be a ruthless stranger.
Sadly, that is MORE often than not, NOT the reality.
If it wasn't their dream, then her actions disturb me.
The casualty with which she speaks of remodelling disturbs
me... the thoroughness of it does also. The way in which
she grumbles jokingly about the burdens of it... all whilst
she is SO pregnant... It just doesn't sit right.

I do NOT know her heart... but I can SEE (in small part) her
actions... are they the actions of one grieving? Are they the
actions of one HOPING against hope the killers are found?
What would any of us do in her shoes? Life MUST keep on
going, of course. No one would want their loved ones to
grieve forever..................but.........

AND, could I EVER feel secure in that house?
TRULY SECURE?
Would I want to bring a baby into it with the killers uncaught?

That would haunt me as well.

Actually, I'd ALSO have a hard time changing anything for fear that
there was a clue...something left behind that someone might
have missed...

Think I lost my train of thought in my ramblings...
Oh, I feel almost guilty and mean for posting this... may their
killers be brought to justice and the truth be known.
I hope I am WAY off base in my musings.

With love and prayers,

Ariel:blowkiss:

Ariel - Thanks for your post. Let me say thank you for your prayers. They are welcomed always.

I read this post and let me just comment on a few - YES.. life goes on Ariel. Life continues even tho parts of your life are erased. Is it normal to begin this new life immediatly after homides? Not normal by most but still not unusual as you state people are all different. Let me say I can understand 'some' actions to be questionable. I can even go as far and 'allot' of actions. But what I and my family had experienced, heard, seen is far from being normal or being just 'allot'. I am NOT the only person to question the actions. I had and will continue to have people approch me and ask if I can shed light on what is going on with "A" and why everything is a mess! Why the stranger to move in to Anderson's house of 40yrs? Why the new years party 3 months after their bodies were found. I question the same AND MORE. These are folks from hometown of Dad and Darleen. Residents who now lock their doors every night and question who would do such a horrible act on two wonderful people. I keep remembering Scott Peterson and HIS actions after his 7month PG wife Lacy Peterson was reported missing. Did you see him with news or making statements? Not hardly. I pray for closure and to finally put an end to this monster of a nightmare.

I can personally say that I would NEVER have changed a darn thing in that house. I would NEVER have allowed strangers to move in so quickly. I think that if time would pass and there was closure - I probably could stay there... My father's soul would be at peace... It would be very difficult at first. Seeing all the personal belongings and pictures.. and also the stain still on the garage floor... It's not easy.... BUT.. again... the following weekend after I left, there was a little 'get together' with some people at my dad's place and they decided to cook up a deer and DRINK right where my father was found. I found that to be very rude - due to the WHOLE homiside and everything - WOW huh...Nobody seemed to have a problem being there... Hangin out after dark. Well - I should say that nobody from that crowd had a problem with it. Well..I had a problem being there during the day..let alone after dark.! I found it very very disrespectful. Maybe some might think it as 'a way to say bye' or something like that... to my dad and darleen... Well..personally having strangers moving in and dad's personal stuff being divided up with these people... is rude and disrespectful. And my son never even had a chance to have one of dad's poles.. Just sad..

I don't think there is any activity from "A" on behalf of posting pic's or information regarding the murder of her parents. As far as I think she probably does not call LE very often. I see the priorities are way off... If it were me and I had 'all these funds available' ((she must with all the updates she's doing - they cost a bundle!!!)) I would throw a HUGE reward on the web-site.. and try and stir a lead. But.. again.. that's logical thinking here Ariel.. I just continue to plug the web-site and try and stir up any funds to post a higher reward. She has never contributed nor contact me about the foundation or web-site - or billboard... Go figure huh.

Warm hugs and happier days to come.
Rosco