I really don't care what consenting adults do. I am only responsible for living by my own moral code. However, I think DB/JI are being irresponsible. There are three children to think about in this situation. If something were to happen to one of them, legally they aren't entitled to much. I think responsible parents gets their ducks in a row and plan for the what if's. BL's situation is interesting, because if something happened to DB, SB would likely be her assumed father. I don't think he would be interested in taking custody of her, but DB and JI need to think about those kinds of things. As adults, they can do what they want. . .but it's not just about them. MOO