Hi, I'm new to the JBR forum but have been on Websleuths a long time, first as a lurker for many years before joining officially.
I've just finished reading James Kolar's book. I'd never seen references to it anywhere but here. When it was first published, I tried to borrow it from my local library system but they don't have it. I even put it in a request with the central office for new-book purchasing, but to date they still haven't added this book to the system's collections. I think this is really unfortunate and I wish they would so that more people can read Kolar's experience and perspective. I ended up buying a copy on Amazon through a marketplace seller. It's a former library copy, actually, a discard. It makes me wonder if the book is not popular among the library-using public, to already have been discarded from one library system and still not available in mine. That's really disappointing to me. I think more people should be reading it.
I come to my reading with many years of interest in the case. I was a senior in high school when JBR was murdered. I distinctly remember the first time I heard anything about it. I was watching the news with my mother at home in a suburb of NYC. The city ABC affiliate had a brief story two days after Christmas. I clearly remember the video footage in JBR's bedroom being shown on the news. I remember wondering what kind of people put a full Christmas tree in a six-year-old's bedroom. I thought maybe that's just what people do in Colorado. Later, I married a man born and raised in Colorado and found this not to be the case. This was a special family. The case has stayed in my mind ever since and I have read and re-read Thomas' and Schiller's books many times over the years.
Now, I'm the mother of two. I currently have a nine-year-old boy and a six-year-old girl. Since their birthdays, JBR has been on my mind even more. I look at my daughter and think about the terrible things done to JBR and get chills. Reading Kolar's analysis of Burke's possible responsibilty for her death gives me chills too, but I also see a lot of validity in his theory. My son is much bigger than his sister and stronger too. He is never violent at all, thankfully, and usually treats his sister gently and respectfully. But their size difference is great. He is about 56 inches tall and weighs about 70 lbs. She is about 44 inches tall and weighs 42 lbs. He is considered about average size for his age, she is on the smaller side for hers. But I think they'd look fairly typical when compared to other pairs of their genders and ages, and I can see how a boy of nine could severely injury a girl of six, given the right amount of rage or jealousy, which I do think could have been at play between BR and JBR. He did not sound like a healthy, well-adjusted boy in Kolar's descriptions.
My own theory of the case has changed over the years. For a long time I thought this was done by PR, with JR helping to cover up. I thought maybe she lost her mind after one too many accidents. But I don't think this is the strongest possibility anymore. I think Kolar's theory makes a lot of sense and I'll tell you what changed it for me: the discussion of the Polaroids taken of each of the three family members at the police station shortly after JBR's murder. The parents were described and looking haggard and despondent while BR sat smiling and relaxed. I can only imagine how desperate they must have felt, on top of their grief. I'm not excusing them at all for their choices, but I can understand better now the state they must have been.
Thanks for the chance to share my ideas.