I do not understand this? and BTW I love your board etiquette.
Hi, Manzana. Thanks for the kind words. When I made the comment about Travis' crude joke, I was thinking of lighthearted, "endearing" terms that my niece and her live-in boyfriend used about one another that most people would find offensive.
To me, what seems most important is when what was said and done. Travis and Jodi had a romantic, sexual relationship; Travis broke up with her. (A strange action, by the way, for some one wanting to control another person.) What happened sexually in bed or elsewhere during that relationship is essentially irrelevant and probably mostly unknowable.
After that, they had what seems to have been a fluctuating, intermittent relationship, mostly sexual. Most of that seems to have initiated by Jodi, who traveled back to see Travis even after she had moved to California. For the defense to prove that Jodi was the victim of physical and/or sexual abuse, one would imagine that they would have to prove that Travis had been the dictatorial pursuer instead of just being a compliant sex partner.