With all due respect I am in the middle of a psych degree .I am fully aware of the biological reasoning behind why men are more likely to be less emotionally invested when sex is involved and why women are more apt to think
twice. There being a reason for it does not change the fact that
it is present and because "it is reality", it is glazed over by society.
It is ok if he continues to bed a "psychopath" because he is a man and
cannot help himself? His sex drive is so strong that he can ignore
her slitting his tires, her threats to friends and her apparent breakins?
He did nothing but accept sex from a psychopath? So he didn't
talk to her on the phone as witness by phone records? He didn't email
back and forth with her as discussed in court already?
He did not enter into a financial contract with her also represented in court?
While I do not think she's innocent I do think there is more to the
story. For those who think its cut and dry and all he did was objectify
the woman and that's fine. That's where I see a double standard.
Oh poor guy all he did was have sex with an unstable woman and pull her strings. While we are talking about biology I guess that means if she killed him out of jealousy ( a biologically motivated response as well) then she is hardly
responsible for her actions.
OK, I am in NO way any sort of psych "expert"....although I take a chitload of meds...LOL
Nevertheless...NOBODY "deserves" to be treated that way OR do NOT, even more so, deserve to be murdered.
So, yes, "biologically" speaking, men have a propensity toward sexual behavior/desires...basically, thinking with the "little head" as opposed to the "big one" AKA their brains...some men have a greater sex drive than morals.
Women have similar "biological" desires, etc, but, SOME have the ability to decide NOT to....again, sometimes not.
Jealousy goes BOTH ways. Men can be, and women, as well. BUT, jealousy is NOT an "inherent" quality, as the act of "procreation" (sexual desire) is.
AND, needless to say, jealousy is NEVER a quality that naturally progresses to murder. Yet, sometimes it DOES. And, in those cases, the SAME EXACT things are said about the man.
So, I'm probably NOT getting the "double standard" and the BBM statement is a "huh???" moment for me.
Ya know what, YES, "the poor guy, all he did WAS have sex with an unstable women and pull her strings"!!! That's it in a nutshell. I can't see where there's a debate on that, IMO.
He acted like a schmuck, yet she kept coming back. Why?? Who the eff knows??? She wanted to, she didn't want to give up, she COULDN'T give up, he was a "challenge", best sex she ever had...on and on.
Sooo, apparently, TA called her every possible thing to hurt her in an email. She acted like a psycho...slashed his tires, etc. Yet, there they are...with pics to prove it.
Why??? He's a HORNTOAD!!!! He can't stop himself, best sex, he wants it, she does it, she's available...again, the list goes on....just like the reasons SHE kept it going. Just like so many "other" situations. It's called "eff buddies". I'm pretty sure, by June 4th, and the nasty email from TA, and all the other comments, she kinda got that idea.
Again, not getting what the "double standard" is??? If nothing else, when a woman gets murdered by a "jealous" man, HE'S looked at as the biggest monster in the world. Regardless of what the woman did to "pull his strings"....regardless of the fact he was a psycho, slashed her tires, etc. and yet she is still seeing him
For the man, there NEVER is a reason...AND, self defense??? Ever hear THAT and have people look at the man as a "victim"???
Oh, in the defense opening "what would TRAVIS have done to FORCE her to do it".
Kinda sad, no???
I hope I didn't offend anyone, AND, hope I'm making at least some sense...LOL
Again, as always, just IMO.
