Thank you all (Cowgirl/terminator/LSD/ and others) for your efforts to enlighten Vanessa - And please let me say on her behalf: Vanessa and her family are wonderful people and I'm glad to know them. Good luck all!
Thanks for your post. I don't know if we enlightened Vanessa or not, but I hope that something we have said stuck in her head and that she knows nobody here, including myself wished harm to her or her child but the marriage was doomed to fail from the beginning. Vanessa was unfortunate enough to see the real and true Raven, but in many ways she was very fortunate. I am sorry for any pain she has had to endure being with such a mad man.
I hope she does not do what other girls, including Janet have done and that's to go back to him. He'll at least keep her on a string somehow, all the while bashing her, because that's his Modus operandi.
Janet almost got away but took Raven back right before she had Kaiden.
I step back and think about that. Janet is pregnant and Raven is living with another woman. They get back together I think, two months before Kaiden was born. Kaiden is born in October and less than six months later Janet is murdered. She basically spent most of her pregnancy with Kaiden alone, and was pregnant when she was murdered. How sad is that!
Raven's under indictment for embezzlement, his wife is pregnant, he's got a 6 month old child, they are behind on their rent, he doesn't want to give up his VX, he doesn't want to be tied down. Janet's dead 4 months after he got caught embezzling, 6 months after Kaiden born and 4 months before the trial on the embezzlement. He was having relations before during and after Janet's murder and a few months after Janet murder, he starts a relationship with an underage girl who ends up having a baby girl and it's given up for adoption.
He's been through woman after woman after woman since then. How many of these relationships have been abusive? How many females have seen the crazy Raven?
People that know Raven get conned because he is like a chameleon. He is what he thinks you want him to be. It's not exclusive to women either, he cons both men and women. He stores up information on you, every mole, every freckle, and then starts turning them against you. He slowly starts to take over your life, and then makes you feel as though you are not good enough. He eats away at you a little at a time. That's Raven. He's a classic sociopath. He's not book smart, but he's cunning and he is masterful at taking things and twisting them and trying to come out as the victim, time and time again.
If people could only imagine 7 short months ago he married and he's now on his 2nd girlfriend.
Vanessa is lucky that she got away from this guy and hopefully more and more people start to see the real Raven and I am sure someone has information that would be that last dot to nail Raven and they need to come forward to Durham LE.
This needs to be in jail where he belongs.:behindbar