Emma Peel
an unexpected turn of events
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I keep losing my posts.
I'll take it as a sign.
Okay, maybe I won't. :crazy:
Saw the interview finally. (Thanks Eyes). Think Desiree made it pretty clear that Terri told her she was ready for Desiree to come get Kyron, and Kyron was ready for Desiree to come get Kyron, and Kaine made it clear that this was not an option.
Summer vacation planning - with Desiree & Kyron together for a longer time in summer than ever before (IIRC) - probably helped smooth that decision over for all.
Kaine had planned an extended vacation in California with Kyron immediately upon school letting out. Then, IIRC, Kyron was to go to Desiree's for summer.
(Where were Terri & baby planning to be during California vacation? Anyone recall?)
IMO, it's starting to make some sense to me. The timing and all. Something snapped in Terri, and she took the Kyron leaving matter into her own hands?
Surely many step-parents can discern and separate the emotions and pain of the end of a marriage relationship from the parenting/nurturing relationship with their stepchildren. I'm gathering Terri was not that sort of step-parent. Have to agree with those before who have suggested she never bonded with Kyron.
What was in the way of that bonding? Was it the same thing that is at the root of her alcohol abuse. At the root of her lying. At the root of the intense body-building effort (as in, the rush/focus to prepare for competition). At the root of the sexting behaviors.
Or was it a growing hatred of Kaine that broke the bond with Kyron?
We're getting there. .... Those of us interested in the dynamic that made this seemingly impossible "disappearance" happen ... we're slowly getting to the circumstantial bits of evidence that LE likely has that make them confident in a case against Terri.
Speaking for myself, I've needed info like this - to be able to get there with circumstantial information such as these "indicators" from Desiree may become.
Without Kyron's body, IMO, we need this exactly this sort of family-history-emotional-evidentiary information to firm up a case against Terri. We might even need it for the MFH case.
Analyzing the relationship dynamics is not about trying to point fingers at, or to blame the victim parents for this crime. At least not for me.
The victims parents are crushed. I take issue with Kaine's choices to keep silent about Terri's issues (temporary or otherwise) when Desiree was trying to get to the root of Kyron's unhappiness. Never-the-less, I'm sure Kaine had no idea what Terri was capable of, and his silence on the subject, his relutance to disclose, may well have been to give his family (with Terri, Kyron, the baby) time to turn itself around. We don't know the why of that. But, I get the impression that Kaine is a very smart man. High intellect. I can imagine he's right all of the time, argues logically and strenuously, and that he is an intimidating person to disagree with.
But Desiree is no longer able to support the decisions and choices and the reasonings that Kaine has made in the past, now that she knows more about what happened. She may be speaking from a place of anger now. (finally.) As she moves through her grief...but I have to say, she sure has demonstrated enormous composure for an angry person. She's been a pillar of composure and class all along.
That gives me reason to listen to her very closely.
:cow:
I keep losing my posts.
I'll take it as a sign.
Okay, maybe I won't. :crazy:
Saw the interview finally. (Thanks Eyes). Think Desiree made it pretty clear that Terri told her she was ready for Desiree to come get Kyron, and Kyron was ready for Desiree to come get Kyron, and Kaine made it clear that this was not an option.
Summer vacation planning - with Desiree & Kyron together for a longer time in summer than ever before (IIRC) - probably helped smooth that decision over for all.
Kaine had planned an extended vacation in California with Kyron immediately upon school letting out. Then, IIRC, Kyron was to go to Desiree's for summer.
(Where were Terri & baby planning to be during California vacation? Anyone recall?)
IMO, it's starting to make some sense to me. The timing and all. Something snapped in Terri, and she took the Kyron leaving matter into her own hands?
Surely many step-parents can discern and separate the emotions and pain of the end of a marriage relationship from the parenting/nurturing relationship with their stepchildren. I'm gathering Terri was not that sort of step-parent. Have to agree with those before who have suggested she never bonded with Kyron.
What was in the way of that bonding? Was it the same thing that is at the root of her alcohol abuse. At the root of her lying. At the root of the intense body-building effort (as in, the rush/focus to prepare for competition). At the root of the sexting behaviors.
Or was it a growing hatred of Kaine that broke the bond with Kyron?
We're getting there. .... Those of us interested in the dynamic that made this seemingly impossible "disappearance" happen ... we're slowly getting to the circumstantial bits of evidence that LE likely has that make them confident in a case against Terri.
Speaking for myself, I've needed info like this - to be able to get there with circumstantial information such as these "indicators" from Desiree may become.
Without Kyron's body, IMO, we need this exactly this sort of family-history-emotional-evidentiary information to firm up a case against Terri. We might even need it for the MFH case.
Analyzing the relationship dynamics is not about trying to point fingers at, or to blame the victim parents for this crime. At least not for me.
The victims parents are crushed. I take issue with Kaine's choices to keep silent about Terri's issues (temporary or otherwise) when Desiree was trying to get to the root of Kyron's unhappiness. Never-the-less, I'm sure Kaine had no idea what Terri was capable of, and his silence on the subject, his relutance to disclose, may well have been to give his family (with Terri, Kyron, the baby) time to turn itself around. We don't know the why of that. But, I get the impression that Kaine is a very smart man. High intellect. I can imagine he's right all of the time, argues logically and strenuously, and that he is an intimidating person to disagree with.
But Desiree is no longer able to support the decisions and choices and the reasonings that Kaine has made in the past, now that she knows more about what happened. She may be speaking from a place of anger now. (finally.) As she moves through her grief...but I have to say, she sure has demonstrated enormous composure for an angry person. She's been a pillar of composure and class all along.
That gives me reason to listen to her very closely.
:cow: