On the flip side, I wouldn't assume that people who look like they are successful and surrounded by family and friends, don't have the same trauma and instability that others do. Some of most traumatized people I've known came from well-to-do families that looked like they had it all. I haven't kept up with this whole thread, but AFAIK, we don't know the demons that NM fought prior to his addiction. I'm not sure it matters in his case at the moment, but just saying we can't assume his spiral into addiction was born from a need to party even if on that particular night he lost control. Addiction is addiction. It hijacks your free will, no matter what your life is like.