ME ME - Ayla Reynolds, 20 mnths, Waterville, 17 December 2011 - # 5

[Sparklin]

She only said he would not talk to her after the disappearance, not beforehand. All MOO

I thought she said they use to talk but hadn't been communicating for a while before hand. I'll have to check the msm's

 

[tlcya]

Thinking of Buggy tonight. Praying for answers soon.

 

[IHAVENOCLUE]

Here I go again...thinking outside the box...I know it may have absolutely ZIP to do with the case...but...have we heard anything about the father of Ayla's little brother? I know we can't discuss him if he hasn't been brought up by MSM. But maybe I missed something?
I mean...who would have thought that JD's gf's sister would be playing a part in this mystery?

 

[ThoughtFox]

An almost 2 year old should not be getting a bottle at all, let alone right before bedtime...The milk would pool in her mouth and she'd have horrible teeth. Aside from that, my daughter who turned 2 today goes to bed at 830 and does not wake up until 9 each morning. Granted, I do go in the room to wake my other child at 630 for school. Even through that, she sleeps. Every child is different...

I'm just talking about what people actually do, not what they "should do."

Yes, every child is different, every situation is different (and this one is getting more "different" by the day) and I thought perhaps they gave her a bottle to settle her down since she hadn't been living there very long.

Besides, my point is moot because we aren't getting any details about Ayla's habits.

 

[deoneta]

I thought she said they use to talk but hadn't been communicating for a while before hand. I'll have to check the msm's

Many of TR's statements are confusing, partly because of her emotional state I think. We know she says she talked to him the day before the specialist's appointment and other times when she'd call and try to talk to Ayla. She says things like "he just won't talk to me" in the midst of speaking of other issues, but her concern was the time since Ayla's disappearance when he wouldn't answer her calls. At least that's how I understand it. All MOO.

 

[ThoughtFox]

JMO, but I believe that there are many loving, right, and absolutely unique ways to parent a child. Many two and even three year old children have a bottle of milk to go to bed with. Personally, I have not used bottles at all with any of my four children; they were each breastfed for two plus years. I never used pacifiers either. Actually, both bottles and pacifiers in general can be more detrimental to a child's oral development, (jaw and speech), than that of causing tooth decay. That said, I have known people whose children went to bed with a bottle of milk and experienced no ill effects from it in regards to tooth decay. It is simply all a matter of perspective, IMO.

I wish even one of my four children would have gone to bed at 8:30 pm and slept soundly until 9:00 the next morning--lucky you! My two and a half year old is up and ready to go before 8:00 am each and every morning--unless he is sick which is a rare event--regardless of what time he falls asleep. He wakes up at least once for a diaper change and another time to be comforted back to sleep. But, I do understand that each and every child is unique. I also recall in interviews with both Trista and Grandfather Ronald individually that Ayla does not sleep through the night? I would also speculate that with three toddlers, with three uniquely different personalities, in a small 988 sf home, that at least one of the children would have needed some attention in a twelve to thirteen hour time period? Yet, there has not been any mention of that.

I really didn't mean to open up a bottle debate at all - just speculating. I breastfed my children too, but my middle child weaned himself before age one, so I let him have a bottle of water at bedtime, then I'd go in and remove it after he fell asleep.

And heck, sometimes I would give him a bottle of milk when he wouldn't settle down - no problems with his teeth either, and he's 21 now.

I just wonder how they got all these toddlers to go to sleep. I think that's a valid question in this case considering how simple they make it sound in interviews. Many toddlers are difficult at bedtime, and I've known well-meaning parents who were kept up half the night because they couldn't work out a routine. I never had that problem myself.

 

[HiHater]

Here I go again...thinking outside the box...I know it may have absolutely ZIP to do with the case...but...have we heard anything about the father of Ayla's little brother? I know we can't discuss him if he hasn't been brought up by MSM. But maybe I missed something?
I mean...who would have thought that JD's gf's sister would be playing a part in this mystery?

The fiance is mentioned here (not by name) only with regard to picking out the name "Ayla."

http://bangordailynews.com/2012/01/...lds-i-dont-think-ayla-has-ever-had-a-bad-day/

You're right, any forthcoming info from him is remarkably absent---just like JD's family members' statements or input. He has obviously been with TR since before Ayla was born, I'm sure he would know a lot about the situation (bruises, custody arguments, etc).

 

[HiHater]

I really didn't mean to open up a bottle debate at all - just speculating. I breastfed my children too, but my middle child weaned himself before age one, so I let him have a bottle of water at bedtime, then I'd go in and remove it after he fell asleep.

And heck, sometimes I would give him a bottle of milk when he wouldn't settle down - no problems with his teeth either, and he's 21 now.

I just wonder how they got all these toddlers to go to sleep. I think that's a valid question in this case considering how simple they make it sound in interviews. Many toddlers are difficult at bedtime, and I've known well-meaning parents who were kept up half the night because they couldn't work out a routine. I never had that problem myself.

Perhaps the toddlers were actually tired out! Maybe they played together alllll day long, so at bed time there is no fight, just sleep...some people have to tire their kids out themselves, having other kids around surely helps a bunch. JMO though

 

[Kiln Wood]

The idea of the texts is very odd...as though JD was preparing TR for Ayla to be missing? I don't know what to think. I can't think of any reason for him to be texting her things like that, when they weren't even close, except to put it in her mind that someone might take Ayla. ?

BBM 1 - Does anyone care to speculate as to the reason for this?

BBM 2 - I wonder what would have given JD that idea; does anyone
care to speculate? Also, not saying this is the case, but is there the
probability it's the other way around, i.e., JD may have given Ayla to
someone?

I am now in my golden years and don't text, but I can't help but think if TR was so concerned, could she not have picked up a phone and called JD after receiving his text? I am not blaming TR, I am attempting to gain a better understanding if texting has done away with calling.

 

[IHAVENOCLUE]

Then I believe NO ONE DID. As far as I am concerned, this child has been missing MUCH MUCH MUCH longer than what we are being led to believe. I personally believe that the "party" at the house is their attempt to distract from the actual disappearance.

I have a suspicion, too, that Ayla's been missing longer than what has been reported.

There is no evidence of Ayla sightings right before the "disappearance".

TR was not given the opportunity to talk to Ayla right before the "disappearance". JD had "reasons" for not having TR talk with her baby.
I know the reasons seem innocuous enough, one excuse at a time.

But adding this all up leads me to believe Ayla was missing before the reported date.

 

[katydid23]

BBM 1 - Does anyone care to speculate as to the reason for this?

BBM 2 - I wonder what would have given JD that idea; does anyone
care to speculate? Also, not saying this is the case, but is there the
probability it's the other way around, i.e., JD may have given Ayla to
someone?

I am now in my golden years and don't text, but I can't help but think if TR was so concerned, could she not have picked up a phone and called JD after receiving his text? I am not blaming TR, I am attempting to gain a better understanding if texting has done away with calling.

I don't think he was 'preparing TR' for Ayla to be missing. That is not how I interpret it. If he was planning to take her away somewhere, why would he warn TR?

I think he was getting the vibes that someone was watching them and stalking them. FB rumors say that there was a Reynolds family member who lived in his Waterville neighborhood. So maybe he was right about his paranoid feelings.

 

[HiHater]

Just a thought...

Maybe JD slept so late that morning because Ayla would usually wake him up? I know when my mom babysits overnight for me, I usually sleep a lot later the next morning/afternoon because my alarm clock (daughter) didn't go off. LOL Or perhaps his mother usually deals with Ayla that early in the morning...

 

[Lera213]

I have a suspicion, too, that Ayla's been missing longer than what has been reported.

There is no evidence of Ayla sightings right before the "disappearance".

TR was not given the opportunity to talk to Ayla right before the "disappearance". JD had "reasons" for not having TR talk with her baby.
I know the reasons seem innocuous enough, one excuse at a time.

But adding this all up leads me to believe Ayla was missing before the reported date.

Could also explain why mommy wasn't there. She probably left not wanting to be a part of it. Or she took care of putting Ayla somewhere. MOO

 

[katydid23]

Just a thought...

Maybe JD slept so late that morning because Ayla would usually wake him up? I know when my mom babysits overnight for me, I usually sleep a lot later the next morning/afternoon because my alarm clock (daughter) didn't go off. LOL Or perhaps his mother usually deals with Ayla that early in the morning...

On the FInd Ayla FB, which is public, there was a conversation with the sister of Justin. She posted and then her posts went poof, so could not link back to them. But she said that her daughter was 'fussy' and so she went in at 10 pm and took her into bed with her. Now this was posted before we heard about another baby maybe being there too. So I don'tknow if Ayla was alone there then or not. But after seeing that post I thought that maybe that was why he did not wake up. because the other baby was already being tended to, so JD might have just slept in.

 

[HiHater]

I have a suspicion, too, that Ayla's been missing longer than what has been reported.

There is no evidence of Ayla sightings right before the "disappearance".

TR was not given the opportunity to talk to Ayla right before the "disappearance". JD had "reasons" for not having TR talk with her baby.
I know the reasons seem innocuous enough, one excuse at a time.

But adding this all up leads me to believe Ayla was missing before the reported date.

Then my question would be "why now?" Why did he pick that particular time to report her missing? It's not like people from school would miss her, and he could have just stopped answering TR's phone calls altogether. Better yet, he could have gone on the run...so many possibilities...

 

[dog.gone.cute]

Then I believe NO ONE DID. As far as I am concerned, this child has been missing MUCH MUCH MUCH longer than what we are being led to believe. I personally believe that the "party" at the house is their attempt to distract from the actual disappearance.

BBM: B I N G O !!!

I totally agree ...

The "so-called" timeline that has been given by the DiPietro's -- and changing "story" by PD -- as well the "party" at the DiPietro house is HINKY and just does not add up ...

MOO ...

 

[Donjeta]

Then my question would be "why now?" Why did he pick that particular time to report her missing? It's not like people from school would miss her, and he could have just stopped answering TR's phone calls altogether. Better yet, he could have gone on the run...so many possibilities...

I expect some follow-up would be expected about the broken arm.
There had already been one missed appointment about it, according to TR anyway.

A life on the run does not appeal to everybody. I wouldn't do it if I had a choice.

 

[naturallyme]

BBM 1 - Does anyone care to speculate as to the reason for this?

BBM 2 - I wonder what would have given JD that idea; does anyone
care to speculate? Also, not saying this is the case, but is there the
probability it's the other way around, i.e., JD may have given Ayla to
someone?

I am now in my golden years and don't text, but I can't help but think if TR was so concerned, could she not have picked up a phone and called JD after receiving his text? I am not blaming TR, I am attempting to gain a better understanding if texting has done away with calling.

I can only think of three reasons:

1----they actually were, which I doubt.
2----extreme paranoia which usually indicates some type of mental illness
3----part of a set up to make it look like a kidnapper was involved to cover his own actions.

those are just my thoughts and just my own opinions

I am a golden years person also, and I don't text either, but yes the younger generation has just about completely replaced talking with text.

 

[BritsKate]

Then my question would be "why now?" Why did he pick that particular time to report her missing? It's not like people from school would miss her, and he could have just stopped answering TR's phone calls altogether. Better yet, he could have gone on the run...so many possibilities...

Assuming the absolute worst (a filicide) parents very rarely go on the run. IMO that is more in line with parental abductions. When a parent murders their child they typically conceal, deflect, and lie. In the rare cases of psychotic filicide though there is often a confession.

He could have stopped answering TR's calls but he would not have been able to avoid a court order forcing him to produce Ayla for visitation (at least) to her mother without repercussions.

Also, while very little research has been done into paternal filicide one of the most common known classifications for paternal filicides is that of child abuse. More men than women who commit filicide have a history of physical abuse towards their victim(s). While all children have accidents - especially toddlers - the majority don't go missing so I think that could be relevant to Ayla's disappearance. Personally I don't see an elaborate cover-up - I think this was abuse that went too far and was concealed very quickly. Admittedly it concerns me greatly that the grandmother was initially more concerned for her son's welfare than her toddler granddaughter's. I do believe she could be complicit but not realise the severity. (e.g. accident versus abusive murder)

All JMO

 

[Indy Anna]

Could also explain why mommy wasn't there. She probably left not wanting to be a part of it. Or she took care of putting Ayla somewhere. MOO

I wonder if PD was normally in the house at night? Maybe she routinely left during the weekends?

There was a woman in my neighborhood who would spend the weekends with her boyfriend, leaving her teenage son at home (he was 17-18 yo). The boy would have wild parties in his mother's absence. I wouldn't be surprised if that was happening at the DePietro home.

I could understand a mother trusting her 20+ yo son who is perfectly capable of living on his own and had the responsibility of rearing a child. If JD appeared mature and dependable throughout the week, PD probably expected him to be equally trustworthy in her absence.

I've also had thoughts about PD leaving to take Ayla somewhere during the night she disappeared, but I think it's more likely her normal routine was to spend the weekend elsewhere. But, then, after Ayla disappeared, PD was deceptive about being present that night because she probably suspected that her kids were not the dependable adults she had believed them to be, but now wants to convince the public -- and likely LE -- that they are and the incident was just an improbable occurrence. MOO