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Abaroa's Second Wife Speaks Out By NC WANTED Staff
Posted: May. 12, 2009
Updated: Today at 6:03 p.m.
DURHAM COUNTY The new wife of Raven Abaroa, a person of interest in the 2005 stabbing death of his first wife Janet, has come forward with startling details about her relationship with Abaroa that may assist the murder investigation.
Vanessa Pond, of Utah, told NC WANTED in an exclusive interview that during their short marriage, Raven was abusive both physically and mentally, profoundly deceitful, and prone to sudden, intense mood swings.
Investigators met with Vanessa, who was joined by her parents, Randy and JoDean Pond, while they were in Durham for the NC WANTED interview to gain a better perspective on the Raven Abaroa only a wife could know, and what that might mean for the Janet Abaroa murder investigation.
Vanessa Pond and Raven Abaroa met in early December of 2007 and were engaged six months later, on Mothers Day. As the wedding approached, Vanessa said, Ravens behavior shifted. He became violent.
The day of my bridal shower was the first time. He threw me down and he pushed me around that day, Vanessa told NC WANTED. She was reluctant to tell her story to the media, fearing for her safety in Utah with Raven nearby, but she ultimately felt that it was the right thing to do.
I dont want anyone else to ever be in this same position, ever. And hell keep on going. Hes starting to slip and hes becoming more dangerous, she said.
After two and half months of marriage, the couple separated on Christmas Eve 2008. Vanessa recalled the night he left:
He was in the process of cursing me out and calling me names, telling me how much he hated me, and he didnt care if I died. So he was pushing me around in the bathroom and wouldnt let me out of the bathroom
Then he said, you know what? I want to hit you so bad. I dont care, Im going to hit you; I cant get in trouble for it anymore, she said.
And later, as Raven was leaving, he went downstairs and grabbed Kaiden and said, come on, we have to go. Mommy doesnt want us anymore
Who does that to a child?
Janet Abaroa was stabbed to death in her Durham home on April 26, 2005. She was pregnant with the couples second child. Kaiden, who was six months old at the time, was home during the attack, but was left unharmed.
Raven told police he came home from a soccer game to find Janet dead in the bedroom.
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Investigators told NC WANTED that Raven is a person of interest in his first wifes death and that he has not been fully cooperative with the investigation.
Raven sat down with NC WANTED in 2007 for an exclusive interview about Janets murder. He adamantly denied any involvement in her death.
The bottom line is that I was not involved with the death of my wife
that I would do anything in the world to keep her here with me and that's just, you know, that's something I know and that's something that Janet knows and I think that's something the people who truly know Janet and truly know me, can understand and appreciate, he said.
When Vanessa found out that Ravens first wife had been murdered, she wanted more information. She found the whole story on ncwanted.com, and stayed up all night watching Raven's lengthy interview. She told her parents about the murder and about the speculation surrounding Raven.
They decided to confront him directly.
It was a pretty point-blank question, but wed been needing to know. Ravens response to that was, I loved my wife
in a beating-around-the-bush kind of answer. It was never yes or no, JoDean said.
For Randy, a retired police officer, Ravens response was a red flag, but out of a desire to support his daughter, he gave Raven the benefit of the doubt.
Hes two people, in my opinion. Hes a Jekyll and Hyde and the Jekyll side of him is very charming, very appealing, very convincing, Randy said.
The red flags didnt start coming for Vanessa until after the wedding. The first on their honeymoon:
He was very drunk, and he started talking about how mad he was after Janet died. And kept reiterating how mad he was after she died, just how mad, Vanessa recalled. Then he cuddled up close to me and said, I promise Ill never hurt you. And I didnt know how to take that.
Ravens Jekyll and Hyde personality extended into several aspects of his life his relationships, his faith, his soccer career, the Ponds said.
People Raven considered to be close friends told Vanessa they are scared of him. He would often try to convince Vanessa that she was suicidal, that her behavior was erratic, that everything was her fault, she recalled.
He could go back and forth within seconds and he would say the most horrible things and then moments later, act as if nothing had happened, she said.
And he was controlling. Vanessa said he monitored her computer use, checked her phone, always knew what she was doing and who she was calling.
It was the same thing that he did to Janet. It was a pattern. I was so scared for Vanessa, JoDean said.
In his interview with NC WANTED, Raven talked about his aggressive, competitive nature, but maintained that he would always avoid a fight on the soccer field.
The Pond family recalled a time they attended one of Ravens soccer games. He was red-carded and thrown out of the game for stomping his cleats into the back of a player who had fallen and was on his knees.
Sitting on the sidelines, JoDean recalled, he looked totally relaxed and he was chuckling and he said, thats retribution.
Vanessa also saw huge inconsistencies in Ravens faith. While he talked about trying to be a better person, a better Mormon, he drank heavily, and was ex-communicated from the Mormon church for living with Vanessa outside of marriage, she said, an arrangement he proposed after only few months of dating.
Although Vanessa and Raven are still legally married, Vanessa plans to file for divorce in the near future. She said she no longer believes anything Raven ever told her, and that he twisted the truth to gain her trust.
He had me convinced that everyone was trying to frame him
that everyone was out to get him, that he was the poor victim, she said. In his own world, hes above everyone else and he can do no wrong. Hes so above everyone and everything, the law included.
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