Feeling I get:
1) Husband reminds me way too much of my abusive ex- down to the empty, cool look in his eyes.... Gives me the heeby jeebies...
2) Husband is still named as a person of interest by police (or I should say police has not stated he is no longer a POI). There has to be a reason, something that isn't adding up with the police, something that keeps him on the radar.
3) Having had to get restraining orders against my ex, when we were in court, he told the judge that I had hit him, threatened him, and abused him (granted it was in self defense, and he was the instigator in each case), the judge offered to give him a restraining order against me. He declined, saying he wanted to get back with me. I can easily see someone taking the opposite opinion, and getting one to bolster their cause. (not saying this is what happened, bit saying it would be a cunning move.)
4) how ironic would it be if husband is not involved, and she is a victim of a random kidnapping... Imagine moving 13 hours away from the person you fear most, only to has some random sicko do to you what you feared someone else would so.
As always, just my feelings and opinions... Hope the truth if found soon ans Venus comes home safe.