I remember when my DS was born. We were blessed to have the best babysitter in the world, my mom. My DH would drop him off to my mom in the morning and I would take a train. But I told my mom if my husband ever didn't drop off the baby don't assume we were staying home. Always call me. I had a fear my husband would. Forget the baby in the car. Unrealistic maybe or maybe not.
Oh I did read that when daisy posted it. It is a tragedy all the way around. In most cases I do not think it is remotely close to being criminal-just incredibly tragic, sad and unbelievable to me.Read this article, which daisy7 was kind enough to link to on a related thread:
http://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dy...2/27/AR2009022701549.html?sid=ST2009030602446
It's long, but that's a good thing, as it explains very well how this happens, and why the vilifying of (most of) these parents is so wrong. The answers to your specific concerns are on the last page.
All JMO
It is positively frightening to me that we have to come up with ways to remember that our children are in the car.
All the ideas are good ones, don't get me wrong,I just cannot wrap my head around the fact that this actually needs to be done.
Oh I did read that when daisy posted it. It is a tragedy all the way around. In most cases I do not think it is remotely close to being criminal-just incredibly tragic, sad and unbelievable to me.
I hope you don't think I was villifying anyone. I just cannot wrap me head around putting my purse in the back seat to remember my child as opposed to putting my purse next to my baby to remember my purse.
I think as a society we do as much in our cars as we do in the office or at home. I can fax, email,surf the web,scan documents, deposit a check, read at websleuths, read a book,text and talk on the telephone all before I pull out of my driveway. I can honestly say I do as much buisness in my car as I do at my desk and I do a lot of business!We have our heads in more places than was possible when my kids were in car seats. I was as busy as anyone else but cellphones were only just becoming almost affordable when they were babies and so it wasn't something that everyone spent so much time on. Our cars are extensions of our home and office and that is not the way it always was.
There is a SNL skit where you buy an app that tells you to watch out for the truck that is about to run you over because you have your head in your phone and aren't paying attention.It senses things for you.
Kind of a sad commentary and I think it is part of this problem of this topic.
I understand this problem is probably as old as cars themselves, but would not be surprised if this problem is on the rise because we need to get sensors to think for us now and help us to remember-even what is truly important. But if that is what it takes i am 100% in support.
I understand that it can happen and my heart aches for these parents that are probably doomed to an eternal hell in their own minds. Those poor people; it is a cruel fate all the way around.
But, I still cannot wrap my head around the whole concept and to be honest- i hope I never do.
Maybe you were a stay at home mom, too. This certainly wouldn't have happened to me - not because I'm exceptionally attentive, or a better parent, but just because I always had my kids. This ONLY happens in families where neither parent is the designated "custodian" of the kids, the responsibility goes back and forth with no predictable routine.
I do keep coming up with thoughts about this, though, technology wise. How about if before you can "beep" your car locked, you have to press something ON the child seat in the car before you can beep it locked. People never seem to forget to beep their car locked. Press a button ON the child seat before you can beep the car locked.
Good point there - but I would add that there is another category of parent this happens to - the single parent (or equivalent, such as an army wife). They often have similar problems with chaotic schedule-juggling etc.
I don't think this happens too much with the single parent - who of course probably has more schedule/juggling issues than others and more chaos. Having sole responsibility of the kids is something they do every day, like a stay at home mom - kids are always your responsibility to drop off. Maybe the single mom forgets the milk for cereal to to turn off the iron, but not the kids in the car. In my memory, the kids in the car issue seems to only happen when the 2 parents change their normal routine of who drops off where.
I don't think this happens too much with the single parent - who of course probably has more schedule/juggling issues than others and more chaos. Having sole responsibility of the kids is something they do every day, like a stay at home mom - kids are always your responsibility to drop off. Maybe the single mom forgets the milk for cereal to to turn off the iron, but not the kids in the car. In my memory, the kids in the car issue seems to only happen when the 2 parents change their normal routine of who drops off where.