I never drank alcohol until I was 20. My parents rarely had alcohol at home; when they did it would be for an occasion like Christmas or Easter or something. It could hang around for ages, too. It wasn't that I was a goody two-shoes, I got into plenty of hair raising adventures like climbing a water tower for a lark. If I'd been drinking, I doubt I'd be here to tell the tale.
One thing I remember as a young teenager, maybe 14 or 15, was at my best friend's house when her parents had a big party. Lots of our contemporaries' parents were there and most were loaded. It was unnerving for me as a young girl to see people I'd met at school being perfectly proper weaving all over the place laughing raucously. I said to my best friend, 'I thought parents were supposed to protect us? They're too drunk to deal with anything!'
A lot of these parents, when I got a bit older like 17 or 18, were the very same parents who would go to the cottage for the weekend or to Bermuda for a week, sans kids, but would leave booze or a couple of cases of beer for the kids. The general logic was, 'at least they are home, I don't have to worry about them getting drunk and driving home'. But their kids weren't drinking that booze all by themselves; their friends were coming over to a parent-free home to party.
I think there are a lot of parents like that around today. They rationalize their choices regarding the freedom they give their kids because the reason they do it, is they don't want to give up
their freedoms.
About the lack of seatbelts worn by the five girls involved in the accident. I too, thought, that in this day and age, it would have been an automatic response. These kids have been conditioned to buckle up from a young age, first car seats then booster seats, then fastening their own seatbelts in the family car. They get to a certain age, though, and it becomes goofy or uncool to wear a seatbelt. With so little to rebel about these days, it's a small victory to be outside the curve.
The worst part of this tragedy is that it has become unremarkable because of the sheer number of deaths of teenagers involved in alcohol related accidents.
LE have a responsibility to the public to pursue justice for those who died. I read some tweets of some of the deceased and their friends and get a vibe that they partied unless it was all bravado. Inasmuch the driver of the vehicle was impaired, I do put quite a bit of the responsibility onto the parents.
Setting House Rules
It's obvious that the basic guidelines for teen drivers and passenger safety weren't adhered to. Those basics being no peer passengers, no driving at night, no driving while impaired, wearing your seatbelt. Nothing draconian, just plain common sense. Your children aren't your friends. It's okay that they hate you sometimes for being a parent. Or as my daughter said many times, you're the meanest mother in the whole wide world.
The lawsuit filed against the county by the parents is a classic example of passing the buck. It deserves to be tossed.