sharon25 said:
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But I must ask why do *You* have such strong feelings about people caring for Maura?
Quoted Reply by Cyberlaw from Post #128
"The reason why I have such stong feeling about his family would take another page or so. Suffice to say" I don't respect people who do not take personal responsibility for their actions, blame others, are less than honest, trample other people's rights and "play" the media and have their own personal agenda in blaming others."
I find it very strange that ANYONE not knowing Fred Murray would have strong feelings about him. I have followed Maura's case very closely: having seen Mr. Murray on news reports, Greta Vansustern, CNN and Montel. One can see the constant pain in his face. My heart breaks for him and for anyone with a loved one that is missing.
What "
action" has he not taken full "
personal responsibility" for?
He
"blames others". I am assuming that Cyberlaw is saying that Mr. Murray blames the police for not contacting him the night of Maura's accident. They certainly must shoulder part of the blame: the car that she was driving was registered in his name. He should have been contacted as owner of the car. LE KNEW from witness reports that a woman of about 20 years of age had been driving the car and was alone. They knew she was "absent from the scene of the accident" when they arrived. Leaving the scene of an accident is a criminal offense and is grounds for charges and arrest. Yet, on a dark road with the temperature at 12 degrees and falling, they left and did not search for her for 36 hours.
I have no idea how anyone could truthfully say that he has been
"less than honest" ??? As regular readers know, I am acquainted with a Murray family friend that has known Maura since she was a child. This person has never accused Fred Murray of being a dishonest person.
If anyone does a public search of records in Haverhill, they will learn that ONE family complained about their
"rights". This ONE complaint generated the letter from Haverhill Police Chief about the Murray's tresspassing. It is my understanding that the vast majority of people in the area want to help Fred Murray find Maura....I in no way minimize the rights any one, individual or group. But, it is also my understanding that Fred Murray has worked through these differences with this family.
"play the media" ? my guess is Mr. Murray has begged the media to keep Maura's story alive.........I commend him if that is playing the media. I may be mistaken, , however I believe Maura's case has not received nearly the media attention that other young women across the nation that have gone missing in the same manner have received.
Media attention often seems tied to the LE Agency. If LE is willing to speak to the media, the media will give both LE and the family time. If LE is not, as in Maura's case (and I know this is true - they have only spoken when they called a press conference AND never informed the family except for the interview by Lt. Scarinza on the news show out of Boston)
Yes, I would have to agree that Fred Murray MAY have his "
own personal agenda in blaming others" if you are referring to the police, I know I blame them to a degree for not looking for her the night of the accident. I know it was a mistake on their part. Under the same circumstances, I also know that if anyone would listen to me I would be more vocal and persistent than even Fred Murray about the role that LE played in my loved ones' missing by their omission of actions. There are laws that make failure to act responsibily a serious crime.
It is obvious that Fred Murray's agenda is to find Maura. I commend him for his love and dedication to her. I wish I could say that I feel sorry for anyone that doesn't understand thet depth of love and dedication that he shows, but when it comes to being critical of those qualities, I feel only anger.........
This thread is about Maura's missing. I may be wrong, but in my opinion, none of us should be speaking ill of the people looking for her.
(unlike Cyberlaw who states in Post #49 in the Missing Young Women in NH: quote
"Unfortunately I am right often, mistaken infrequently, but yes I do admit when I am wrong also.
I look at it as an unpleasant learning experience." )
I have always found any learning experience to be pleasant - Cyberlaw and I are of different opinions regarding more than just this forum)
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