You can't imagine what it is like to be an over night sensation. I can't either but it made the R's close ranks and dig in. Media in all forms hounding them, weirdos coming out of the woodwork, offers from people and hatred too. People of all kinds wanting to know the TRUTH BEHIND JON BENET RAMSEY.
I heard people got banned here for being so hateful to each other that it was a necessity.
I remember hearing some of the stuff and having friends who believed the tabs and told me.
Things got out of control real fast and I am surprised they( the R's) weathered the storm so well.
I see their religious activities part of the grieving process. Here is a link to what they are.
http://www.essortment.com/all/stagesofgri_rvkg.htm
I see their religious talk as parents who are going through the steps of grieving. Anger came out when they accused all their friends-driving a wedge and further suspicion on themselves. They went through acceptance when they forgave the killer.
If guilty I think they would have, at almost any cost, maintained close relationship with the Whites. The would have needed them as character witnesses and another ear from the cops. An ear not related to them and outside of the house. They might need that ear to further their cover up or to be able to make a quick get a way. It serves them better to "groom" FW and PW to be another set of eyes and ears for them than to publicly say you are on our list. Any one who knew them was on the list. They suspected someone who knew them as the RN contained some personal info on them.
The fight between Fleet and John on the day of JB's funeral can only be contributed to grief anger or denial as neither one can accept it and they don't know who to be angry at so they are angry at each other instead. Simple displacement of feelings they can't deal with, atypical of men.
They may have accused each other of the murder and JR has every reason to be suspicious Fleet didn't see her as the white blanket stuck out like a neon sign in the dark. John may have thought Fleet knew he broke the window and that Fleet was trying to cover for moving the suitcase under the window. This is where I see an innocent father behaving normally. He doesn't care about his friendship enough to care if he loses Fleet, he just lost JBR nothing else matters as much. If guilty he would have put up with whatever questioning his friend had of him. Minor annoyances or habits would be ignored. Maybe a little rehearsal would be good. If Fleet trips him up he will correct his mistake before being questioned by police about same issue. I think a guilty father would want Fleet as a friend and do just about anything to keep him. Apologizing quickly if your friend seems in the least irritated or acts suspicious of you. I just haven't been myself since all this happened how could I be so thoughtless.
Since we don't know exactly what transpired, making something up, or trying to analyze, the situation is like trying to solve a Rubik cube in the dark. I'll give it a try.
John didn't trust Fleet anymore and Fleet didn't trust John anymore.
The R's were moving away the White's were losing not only JBR but the whole family itself.
The Whites were only considered witnesses anyway because the police didn't think giving the kids cracked crab was important evidence of pedophilia grooming or the fact that Fleet was with John when the body was found. If it was a crucial key to the case or very important we would not know about it.
The whole family was witnesses, who knows what conversations went on between the kids at the party. What games did they play? I'd want to know about the adults in attendance too but I'd carefully dig out every memory I could from those kids.
If a intruder broke in while they were away they might have seen or heard something as they were away from the main crowd of adults.