Have you talked to DSHS about counseling for your mom and brothers. They should be eligible for money, food stamps, and medical, because of the situation they are in. I'm sure that your mom must be unable to work at this time. There is nothing wrong with accepting some help when a person really needs it. Even a small town must have an office for people who need help.
I know that the medical covers therapy for people who need it. I hope you check into that. I would think that your brothers and mom would need to go to therapy for awhile and the schools wouldn't be able to provide long term counseling. Boys often tend to hold their emotions in and those emotions find negative ways of surfacing in time. These kids have a lot to process and trying to understand how they should feel about their father is just one part of it.
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