I echo your thoughts exactly glitterghost ...
What if LE or the pressure of LE to respond is lessened by such flippancy?
I think from a rational standpoint, and from the evidence it is extremely careless for anyone to assume that he just "flipped, and ran off", in fact all the evidence points to fishiness, and given some of the inconsitent testimonies, even more fishy... hmm...
That is unless someone knows something we don't, but it seems no one is sharing evidence that would support that ...
Text messages, and opinions, are not conclusive at all... especially without any evidence to support those opinions, be they flippant or not...
If anyone has anything concrete... it would be good share, otherwise... I am going with the evidence...
It is assumptions and opinions without evidence that often tend to muddle things rather than being helpful...
I just got off the phone with BD... Keep in mind, I am only conveying what was said...
~Tonys family had been calling and harrassing her, so she got her number changed.
~After Tonys family FORCED her to move out of her and Tonys house (their house was in Tonys brothers name) she has since moved and is no longer worrying about them coming over to harrass her.
~weeks before Tony went missing, he was receiving multiple text messages from a lady from Arkansas. Text messages included things like "I thought you loved me", "Pack your bag and come stay with me", "I can't wait to see you".
BD said that she read them one day and confronted Tony about them. BD said that Tony told her he didn't know who it was so he called the person sending them and they had the wrong number.
~BD said that she called the OSBI and they wouldn't tell her anything other than they think he is still alive
~BD said that her "cop friend" told her " You are brave for all you have done, all I can say is to file for a divorce and never look back".
~ BD said that she had been calling Tonys phone and checking the messages since his disappearance, now the messages have already been checked or deleted. She was told that his phone was being forwarded to another phone, but there was no way to track his new phone.
~BD said that her "cop friend" did a check on his social security number, and it is not being used, but informed her that it is not very difficult to obtain a new number or a new identity.
~BD also said that she doesn't know if Tony is with the EX bacause she and little girl have not been seen since 12/4 (date of hearing). She said the EX family is from Atoka, OK and Arkansas...BD said he could very well be with her and his daughter...with a new identity.
(I did a check on OSCN.net to see about Redas marriage the day of court hearing...she filed for a marriage license, but it was never returned signed, or filed)
~BD was told to move on with her life and that is what she has done. She said that she likes her new place, kids are happy now, she doesn't have to worry about the "drama" from his family, and she got her a new job.
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I have spoken with some of Tony and BD family and friends, and from what they have told me, Tony and BD are very unstable (these are opinions, not facts) .Tony has been through several marriages, and the joke with the family was "Who is Tony marrying TODAY?" BD has had several family issues, and issues with Exes. BUT none of us KNOW exactly how they are and what front (if any)they are putting on. Take John Wayne Gacy, and Dorthea Puente for example. Both of those people had normal lives, had friends, family, good jobs, etc. No one thought they could or would be serial killers...they had everyone fooled, including their family and best friends.
I am not saying this of Tony or BD, but I am saying that we don't know the mentality and motives of others. I hope that eventually, the truth will surface! In the mean time, I am going to stick to my conclusion that someone is lying, or with holding information, and I am not so sure who is to believe...things DON'T add up...from BD or Tonys standpoint.
THIS IS ONLY MY OPINION whether it 'muddles things or helps them'. Either way, this case needs to be investigated a little more closely...if Tony is alive, that is WONDERFUL news, but people need to know that so they can move on with their lives...BUT if Tony is dead or missing, JUSTICE NEEDS TO BE SERVED!