Hi! I've been looking a little at this thread. I'm new to this case as I was very young when it happened but when I started reading about it it was just absolutely fascinated.
Most of the media I've seen on it is very much IDI, and my mom felt strongly (and still feels strongly) it had to have been IDI because of the general lack of motive and the old issue about whether a mother could do something like this (or conspire with others to cover up something like this having been done) to her child. The main scenario I always heard in the media that was RDI was that PR attacked JB for wetting the bed, which is what my mom found absolutely ridiculous, and I completely agree with her on that.
I, for the life of me, can't imagine a parent killing a child over bedwetting, but seeing all the other RDI theories and the amount of evidence supporting their involvement, has made me rethink their possible role. I still think IDI is certainly possible, but at the very least I feel like the Ramsays were hiding something. The main thing that really got my interest was the Reddit AMA with Mark Beckner.
A couple of things I am curious if long-time RDI people would like to weigh in on.
Beckner said of JB's death:
We know from the evidence she was hit in the head very hard with an unknown object, possibly a flashlight or similar type item. The blow knocked her into deep unconsciousness, which could have led someone to believe she was dead. The strangulation came 45 minutes to two hours after the head strike, based on the swelling on the brain. While the head wound would have eventually killed her, the strangulation actually did kill her. The rest of the scene we believe was staged, including the vaginal trauma, to make it look like a kidnapping/assault gone bad. I have avoided saying who I believe is responsible and let the facts speak for themselves. There are several viable theories.
I'm wondering if this is generally taken as fact or if there are alternate possible causes of death? The reason I ask is so many theories seem to regard this not as a planned murder but as physical or sexual abuse taken too far or fighting between siblings taken too far. I guess I just have a hard time imagining that being the case with a strong blow to the head like that and strangulation occurring independently of each other. Like I just feel like the intention had to have been to either kill or or harm her in a sadistic way. It's honestly so sick and disturbing I can't bear to think about it, and goes to a much darker place than any other case I've ever read about.
Another thing that really sickens me is the sexual abuse JB seems to have suffered. I feel like the evidence seems to point really strongly to sexual abuse having occurred prior to the murder, both in regards to the evidence found during the autopsy, the serious bedwetting problem, the medical issues JB seems to have had with that general area, and the lack of clean underwear in the house. I am really surprised that no effort was made to investigate that and prosecute someone on that alone. Even if her murderer was someone outside the family and their identity is never uncovered, the molester could have been someone different and that person should have been punished. I've read pedophiles are more likely to reoffend than murderers and it frightens me that that person, whoever it was, may still be out there. Am I wrong about either the evidence I've read about or my interpretation of it? Is her being molested in dispute? Because it really shocks me that this wasn't taken more seriously and I'm curious what people think about it.
I wouldn't even say this if I didn't know the accusation had been made a thousand times before (because it is a terrible thing to accuse someone of on the off chance they're innocent) but I feel like the issue of sexual abuse strongly implicates JR. I suppose there are women who sexually abuse children, but it's not very common and most kids are molested by an older male relative. If BR was capable of something like that (is that even possible?) it still in my mind goes back to JR because psychologists say that children who molest other children have usually been molested themselves, so if BR abused JB than JR perhaps abused BR or even BR AND JB.
Also, this is pretty disturbing to even talk about, but I feel like if the scene was staged the paintbrush actually does point to prior sexual abuse. If we assume the kidnapping was staged to cover up a murder by a member of the family, the ransom note points strongly in the direction of a ransom kidnapping by someone with connections to and a grudge against JR, not a pedophile. The paintbrush is unnecessary if that's the angle you're going with, and for a parent who is not a pedophile it would be insanely disturbing and sickening to have to stage that aspect of the crime. I don't think anyone in the family would have had a lot of insight into what the ME would look for when examining the body, but it might occur to them that she would be checked to see if her hymen was intact and if they knew it wasn't, they might feel the need to stage a sexual assault to explain that.
I'm also a little disturbed by PR's completely dismissive attitude to this evidence when it was brought up in her interview with LE. (
x) Perhaps 1996 was a more innocent time, but nowadays parents are aware of the threats pedophiles pose and are very aware as to which adult males are alone with their kids. She says she's shocked when it's first mentioned, which suggests she believes it, but makes to effort to suggest someone outside the family (teacher, coach, doctor, etc.) or to ask LE who they think was responsible. Later she completely brushes it off as though i's impossible. If any child in my family was molested I would want to know who was responsible and if LE wasn't making the effort to find out I would try and find out myself. I understand reluctance to be cooperative if you think the police are accusing you of something you didn't do, but this question is one that doesn't seem to implicate or accuse PR and if they really believed their little girl was killed by an intruder, finding out who molested her would likely be the key to bringing her killer to justice and clearing the family.
And then there's the whole ransom note situation. I've looked at the evidence for PR and I can see how a lot points to her, but I'm not completely convinced. First of all I think she would have tried harder to conceal her handwriting and second the letter is so much about JR and not at all about her. And JR is the sort of man who named two different children after himself, he's exactly the sort of person to make the note all about himself. The person who wrote it seems like it could almost be the president of the JR fan club. Maybe PR worshipped her husband to that extent but I doubt it. The fact that the paper and pen used came from the home strongly implicates the family but weirdly enough I've thought some of the contents could implicate an intruder. Like, for instance, if JR was involved with the mob or something and the purpose of the letter was to covertly let him know who did this and why, knowing full well he couldn't expose the perpetrator without exposing his own sins. Obviously that means nothing in an RDI scenario but I'm still really unclear about what the killer was trying to accomplish with this note. If it was to cast blame away from the parents, it failed miserably because IMHO it's one of the strongest pieces of evidence for their involvement.