There is and was no evidence of rape. The evidence strongly suggests mutual consent. I'm concerned people are attributing Travis as an abnormal man. He was a man who had sex with a jealous, psychotic, abnormal stalker who then murdered him. Lots of people have issues relating to their childhood experiences. Poverty can be a factor in assessing risk in rape victims but Travis was no longer poor. His parents has been.
As for concealing pain, Travis shared it. He wrote about it. He spoke about it. Childhood trauma had nothing to do with Travis being slaughtered. Commitment issues are not uncommon. He was not a rape victim. He was a victim of her lies, harassment, delusions and manipulations. He was a murder victim.
Yes, but we are not talking about mere 'issues,' severe childhood neglect and abuse by drug addicted parents – and a malnourished and violated six year old. His grandmother may have swooped on over to pick them up at one point, however, their memories were significant enough to leave a mark. I believe Tanisha talked more about that than her siblings. The effects of malnutrition or poverty and a commitment to a woman are nothing without context. He may have had a support circle, yet no one seemed to tell him to really shut her down, lock the doors, whatever he could do – often times his forgiveness of her was disproportionate to the boundaries she crossed and his friends wouldn’t be able than he to identify specifically which boundaries she was violating and why they upset him so much. He seemed to be undergoing some depression and real financial disrepair – it’s essentially another cycle of abuse. He may have forgiven his former abusers after they got clean, however, he may have not tried to identify how his emotional responses were changed in regards to that. His communication with this toxic person was extra-ordinary. You can not “change” a toxic person – it is not his job to do so, and his pity for her was extra-ordinary as well. His desire to sleep with her despite the emotional damage, clearly his desire to “be nice” despite the overwhelming anxiety was also out of bounds. She did take advantage of his fragility and openness.
This probably can explain child psychology relationship to adulthood better for how it would translate to biological effect:
“I’ve heard them all, and more. All take a toll, and this new research study confirms that abuse has a long shelf life. It takes a continuing toll on both physical and mental health well into adulthood. The study, conducted by researchers at UCLA and published in theProceedings of the National Academy of Sciences, examined the effects of abuse and corresponding lack of parental affection across the body’s entire regulatory system. It found strong links between negative early life experiences and health, across the board. The effects permeate one’s entire mind-body system
This study of 756 subjects suggested that “biological embedding” occurs through programming brain circuitry in ways that shape response patterns to subsequent stress. That causes wear and tear extending across multiple mind-body systems, and creates adverse health outcomes decades later. The researchers suggest that toxic childhoodstress alters neural responses to stress, boosting the emotional and physical arousal to threat, and making it more difficult for that reaction to be shut off.”
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There is nothing wrong with being labeled 'abnormal' in that sense, else how else could a therapist identify this and effectively pursue a course of therapy with their patient/client? I sincerely believe if Travis had spoken to someone about his fears, a qualified specialist, he may have been able to understand his stressors. It is very important for someone to identify *what is making you angry, and why. He could only seem to express that much more clearly by May of 2008. And that’s alright, but most people figured it out way sooner. And to endure stress in much the same cycle as he had with Jodi, was abusive. Stressor responses/PTSD were pretty much his vices, because no ‘normal’ person endures that as they have healthier experiences to detect danger or at least destructive behavior better.
Who cares if he was somewhat ‘dysfunctional,’ is what I'm saying? Should he be embarrassed? Why, it isn’t his fault, correct. When she threatened suicide and manipulated him time after time again, he was angry to the point all he did was text all day long over things 30 year old men just don’t.
Physical violence and neglect are threats to a developing nervous system. Personally, I find that even facially, Travis does* appear often times, more emotionally vulnerable than most. I mean, even I* can see that, I can imagine how Jodi just swallowed that up as “Oh, he’s such a NICE boy, should cave to my every whim if I work the angle well enough.” Predators often use that innocence as they have experience violating it. Again, I worked at a child-care facility for several years, everyone’s free to make up their own mind, but I’ve* seen that innocence in adults formerly abused before, it does not appear so vulnerably in others. That childhood innocence seems to be associated with a tampered stage of growth. That doesn’t mean he wasn’t an intelligent man, mind you. But it does mean there is a hidden layer of insecurity he would have been unable to aptly explain to his peers.
Regardless, we don’t even have the evidence, these are ALL hypotheses. She killed him, and we can’t take her word for it for so many reasons. There was no recording that day, just photos with no sway behind them, expressions – and those do not provide enough context to prove something.
