At no point did I ever say JA shouldn't spend life in prison with no parole. In fact, that's exactly where I always said she should and would be, and now she is. That is as much justice as any crime victim can get because they can't be brought back to life.
Danielle Van Dam's parents weren't in a dysfunctional dating relationship with their daughter's killer and their 'faults' had nothing to do with the fact they lived a couple houses away from a pedophile.
Travis was in a very dysfunctional situation with his eventual killer, over a period of time. Travis could have walked away, refused to talk to the manipulator, changed the locks on his doors, changed the garage door code, lock up the patio/doggy door entrance, and change his phone number. He didn't do any of those things. Travis could have reported JA's stalking to the police. He didn't. Ditto tire slashing. Did not report it to police.
Travis' story is a cautionary tale of not listening to one's gut feeling (Travis said he felt frightened) and continuing to engage with a highly disordered person and continue a sexual relationship even though the relationship caused much emotional pain. That's not blaming Travis, that's understanding the full scope of the situation. TA's case reminds me so much of the Ryan Poston murder case and the killer is a lot like JA. His killer was recently sentenced to 40 years in prison for murdering him, shooting him 6 times.
Leaving aside everything else, including the fact Travis did call the police and did speak with Samantha about the tire slashings, and that he didn't know the extent of her stalking behavior until days before she left Mesa...
He in fact did not have a sexual relationship with her after she left Mesa. The May 10th recording was spliced, and there is zero evidence the phone sex part even happened after she left. There is plenty of evidence in the post-Mesa texts that he didn't respond to her sexual hints and innuendos, and it is a fact he wasn't interested enough in her sexually or otherwise to go visit her, despite intense pressure from her to do so.
Why wouldn't he consider himself safe from her at that point? She was 1,000 miles away.
Travis never pursued her. She went after him, repeatedly, directly and indirectly, with varying degrees of hostility and malice. He tried to make her stop. Repeatedly. In nice ways, then in not so nice ways.
I think it's easy to forget that while the had nothing else in her life to focus on, Travis had a very full life, and especially after she left Mesa, the simply didn't figure very prominently in it. In addition to his many social and business obligations, Travis was struggling financially and trying to right those problems, facing career-ending intrigue in his PPL dealings, and trying desperately to get on a path to marriage, though he hadn't yet conquered his fear of commitment.
The kept trying to insinuate herself into his life, Travis kept pushing her back, most often by simply ignoring her & staying out of touch. She responded by escalating her intrusions, he responded to those intrusions with increasing and plain spoken anger.
Her intrusions weren't the kind he could make go away by ignoring her. She was in his computer, sending emails and IM's in his name, and who knows what else. What was he supposed to do?
I've posted before what I think may have happened in early to mid-May. That he thought she'd intercepted texts between himself and CL, told her she "was dead to me," she responded with the "accidental " texts on May 9, he warned her then that his mercy had run out and that it was going to get rough for her.
I think his last ditch effort was setting her up on May 13-14, the NA55 texting event, a 2-fer: to prove she was snooping him online, and to expose her MariaM fraud. He thought that would be enough to make her realize she'd been caught, and to make her stop. He cut her off on MAY 22, a date the acknowledges was the end of their "relationship." What more was he supposed to do?
She didn't stop. She hacked into his FB yet again, even after admitting to her MariaM fraud, and he caught her sending something no doubt poisonous "down the pipeline."
And even THEN, caught red handed, she wouldn't admit to what she had done. Instead, consistent with her MO, she seems to have tried to divert him by upping the ante, whatever she pulled on May 24-25.
She WANTED Travis to get angry, another pattern of hers, no doubt because it put him off balance and made her feel powerful and in control. The pushed all his buttons on May 26. She knew exactly what she was doing, IMO. What she didn't expect was for him to have meant what he said about not wanting her in his life. Utter and absolute rejection, AFTER he tried everything else, and AFTER she had made it clear she was incapable of ever telling him the truth about anything, something he found literally intolerable.
Fwiw, apparently even juror 17 thought the was manipulating Travis on May 26...