Teen Banned From Prom For Being Too Busty

[K008]

If that dress was a bigger size, there would have been gaps which would have exposed more of her breasts as she moved around and would have increased the likelihood of falling out. Women, big or small, do not need to be made ashamed of their bodies, and that to me, is the only purpose of the school's rule.

 

[Perodicticus potto]

When these "staff members" at the high school write their CVs, do they put "Duties include: scrutinising the breasts of underage girls"?

Maybe they should make next year's prom a Victorian-era-themed costume ball.

 

[Steely Dan]

When these "staff members" at the high school write their CVs, do they put "Duties include: scrutinising the breasts of underage girls"?

Maybe they should make next year's prom a Victorian-era-themed costume ball.

BBM

:laughcry:

 

[Ausgirl]

I do get why a -school- might have rules in place as far as how revealing a prom dress can be, and they took it pretty seriously if they had a contract in place to enforce the rule.

If other girls were made to cover up, and not just this particular girl, then fair enough, IMO. Even if they looked nice, they had signed a contrect with the school and knew what the rules were before purchasing the dresses.

However, as a fellow rack-owner, I feel for the girl in question. It's hard to find a nice dress which fits both bust and waist (well-fitting clothing for the hourglass figure went by the wayside in 1959, methinks..) and harder to find one that doesn't make you all Hooty McBoob.

I'm guilty of multiple charges where choosing a slightly smaller size is concerned, because it's easier to rein your hooters in than it is to deal with the baggy middle part when the waist and chest aren't anywhere close to the same ball park in size.

 

[killarney rose]

If that dress was a bigger size, there would have been gaps which would have exposed more of her breasts as she moved around and would have increased the likelihood of falling out. Women, big or small, do not need to be made ashamed of their bodies, and that to me, is the only purpose of the school's rule.

Formal wear shops and depts offer professional alterations. Had she gone up a size or two, the dress could have been altered to fit her body perfectly and we wouldnt be having this discussion. I'm a professional seamstress, I know this can be done. My DIL was a size 14. She found a size 22 wedding dress and had it cut down to fit. It was such a good close out deal she couldn't not take a chance. When my DD got married, she did the same thing. Her dress was altered from an 18 to a 10.

 

[my_tee_mouse]

I have to agree the dress was too small and that dress would have looked much better on her if it were the correct size. I don't think the dress would have appeared as too revealing. The incorrect size caused it be as revealing as it was.

I agree. A different size and use of the straps would have gone a long way.

 

[Steely Dan]

I do get why a -school- might have rules in place as far as how revealing a prom dress can be, and they took it pretty seriously if they had a contract in place to enforce the rule.

If other girls were made to cover up, and not just this particular girl, then fair enough, IMO. Even if they looked nice, they had signed a contrect with the school and knew what the rules were before purchasing the dresses.

However, as a fellow rack-owner, I feel for the girl in question. It's hard to find a nice dress which fits both bust and waist (well-fitting clothing for the hourglass figure went by the wayside in 1959, methinks..) and harder to find one that doesn't make you all Hooty McBoob.

I'm guilty of multiple charges where choosing a slightly smaller size is concerned, because it's easier to rein your hooters in than it is to deal with the baggy middle part when the waist and chest aren't anywhere close to the same ball park in size.

I like tight shirts with large boobies!! :blushing:

 

[zippitydoda]

I do get why a -school- might have rules in place as far as how revealing a prom dress can be, and they took it pretty seriously if they had a contract in place to enforce the rule.

If other girls were made to cover up, and not just this particular girl, then fair enough, IMO. Even if they looked nice, they had signed a contrect with the school and knew what the rules were before purchasing the dresses.

However, as a fellow rack-owner, I feel for the girl in question. It's hard to find a nice dress which fits both bust and waist (well-fitting clothing for the hourglass figure went by the wayside in 1959, methinks..) and harder to find one that doesn't make you all Hooty McBoob.

I'm guilty of multiple charges where choosing a slightly smaller size is concerned, because it's easier to rein your hooters in than it is to deal with the baggy middle part when the waist and chest aren't anywhere close to the same ball park in size.

BBM -

:floorlaugh: Ausgirl, where were you when I was looking for a good screen name?

 

[Cubby]

I think it fit her fine. The fact that there is even disagreement about how it fit her says a lot. Our we now empowering school administrators to decide which girls are and are not allowed to attend prom based on what size dress they think she should buy?

No, but many young girls/teens/women wear clothing of any type that is simply too small. Size is a number to which young girls, teens and women will try and squeeze into, even if unflattering in appearance, because they use that number as something to bolster their self esteem. Rather than accepting their size and flattering clothes in the correct size.

When I tell people what I weigh, which is a lot, they often say no way! You don't look that big. Well, that's because I don't try to squeeze myself into clothing too small and uncomfortable for myself. Wearing the right size clothing always gives a more flattering appearance.

 

[Cubby]

I like tight shirts with large boobies!! :blushing:

I hope not on underage teens!

 

[EmmaliLucia]

Formal wear shops and depts offer professional alterations. Had she gone up a size or two, the dress could have been altered to fit her body perfectly and we wouldnt be having this discussion. I'm a professional seamstress, I know this can be done. My DIL was a size 14. She found a size 22 wedding dress and had it cut down to fit. It was such a good close out deal she couldn't not take a chance. When my DD got married, she did the same thing. Her dress was altered from an 18 to a 10.

The formal wear shops that offer alterations have dresses that are over $1000 minimum, she had on a nice dress, but not one that looked expensive enough to warrant an alteration.

I got my prom dress altered, it literally cost more to alter it than it did to buy it.

 

[Ausgirl]

^ This is why I chose the smaller dress/rein the girls in option so often so as to avoid looking like I was wearing a sack..

I had a good, affordable local seamstress for important occasion dresses, but being in the social crowd I was in at the time and the fashions being what they were then, the tighter dress didn't look out of place.. and I couldn't afford to have every item taken in.

Mostly, I opted for skirt-and-top combos, where I could.

Why do clothing manufacturers NOT cater to the hourglass more when it comes to off-the-rack dresses? It's not like they quit making my body type when the fashion world switched to Twiggy.. /sigh.

And don't speak to me of Kate Moss.

I have to say - the office manager girl in Mad Men - it's so nice to see a TV character with that body type have a prominent role (even she is a blatant sex object /sigh/ and the show is retro.. ). I love the retro dresses, though, wowee. Classy and formfitting, all at once.

 

[my_tee_mouse]

No, but many young girls/teens/women wear clothing of any type that is simply too small. Size is a number to which young girls, teens and women will try and squeeze into, even if unflattering in appearance, because they use that number as something to bolster their self esteem. Rather than accepting their size and flattering clothes in the correct size.

When I tell people what I weigh, which is a lot, they often say no way! You don't look that big. Well, that's because I don't try to squeeze myself into clothing too small and uncomfortable for myself. Wearing the right size clothing always gives a more flattering appearance.

BBM
Nodding.

AND improves self-esteem because you don't spend the whole night tugging uncomfortably at too-tight clothing, wondering "what's" going to "fall out" and if you look ridiculous!

 

[Ausgirl]

Tight clothing is not always unflattering or uncomfortable, though. Or morally reprehensible, either.

Yes, I did go through the gothic corset phase.. whalebone and strings are a giant PITA, for what it's worth, but I looked and felt fabulous in them.

In fact, I would recommend the parents of any teenaged girl to encourage the corset thing. Ever tried to get out of one of those in a hurry? Those prudish Victorian-era peeps weren't silly.

 

[Steely Dan]

No, but many young girls/teens/women wear clothing of any type that is simply too small. Size is a number to which young girls, teens and women will try and squeeze into, even if unflattering in appearance, because they use that number as something to bolster their self esteem. Rather than accepting their size and flattering clothes in the correct size.

When I tell people what I weigh, which is a lot, they often say no way! You don't look that big. Well, that's because I don't try to squeeze myself into clothing too small and uncomfortable for myself. Wearing the right size clothing always gives a more flattering appearance.

That reminds me of a story. I had a girlfriend who saw a dress in a window at the mall and got all swoony over it. I was living with her at the time and so I tried to see what size she wore. I made the mistake of doing it while she was home. She caught me and there was hell to pay.

I hope not on underage teens!

Of Course Not!!!

 

[ArianeEmory]

Having been a wearer of "plus" and then "normal" size clothing, I'll just point out sizing goes the other way too...when you are overweight, it's very tempting to wear bulky shapeless stuff, when (even being overweight), properly fitted clothes look better. I used to be "XL men's cut t-shirts" all the way due to utter lack of self esteem. I have a younger coworker who does that now, and one day she happened to wear a more tailored button-up shirt, people couldn't get over how much thinner she looked.

(Of course, finding well-fitted clothing on a budget is challenging at any size, more so when you are "plus" or do not fit the silhouette of the moment.)

 

[Ausgirl]

I just thought I'd better add that I wouldn't fancy shoehorning myself into something tight these days.

What looks and feels fabulous at 18 is sadly a whole 'nother issue when you're... /coughcough. years old.

 

[waitin'4thewrld2chg]

I am not crazy about dress codes and the attention the codes place on students' bodies, attire, and choices, but I guess for the most part, dress codes are here to stay. I can even see some value in the practice (once in a while I can see some value).

The way I read the wording in the dress code of the school in question, it states no cleavage is allowed. Sounds fair on paper, but I think that rule is still open to interpretation, and interpretation may have been part of the problem here.


A high school with which I am somewhat familiar has a dress code rule for class and school-sponsored activities which stipulates that clothing for both males and females needs to cover the chest from a point that is at least equal to a straight line extending from the uppermost part of one underarm to the other underarm when arms are placed at one's sides. That would pretty much take care of the cleavage issue, I think, regardless of a girl's state of "endowment".

I wish they had let this young lady and any others who were excluded from the prom just go on in and dance this time. Next year if they want to declare a cleavage war, they can make it abundantly clear well ahead of the event exactly what standard they will be enforcing, with an excess of fair warning---and the local malls can stock up on cute shawls cuz it is going to be hard to find enough dresses in town to meet the standard.

 

[Melanie]

Did you see the dress? I see nothing wrong with it. JMO

I saw the dress and thought she was falling out of it. I can't comment on what other girls were wearing to the prom, as I haven't seen those photos.

I do think she had far too much cleavage and one wrong move the girls would have popped right out.

I've seen many lovely dresses for large busted women -- this dress was not one of them

MOO

Mel

Just saying -- here is a similar picture (even the same pose). She would have looked so much better (IMHO) in a dress like this.

 

[ATasteOfHoney]

Yeah, I'm not a fan of that dress either.

When you are well-edowed, a strapless dress just makes it look like you're one exhale away from falling out of the thing.

Also, by the wording of the parents and prom girl, I "smell" a lawsuit brewing.