I wonder if they are all Co-Dependent. The different Characteristics can be applied to CA and GA and KC
http://www.mentalhealthamerica.net/go/codependency
(quotes from article)
They have good intentions. They try to take care of a person who is experiencing difficulty, but the caretaking becomes compulsive and defeating. Co-dependents often take on a martyrs role and become benefactors to an individual in need. A wife may cover for her alcoholic husband; a mother may make excuses for a truant child; or a father may pull some strings to keep his child from suffering the consequences of delinquent behavior. The problem is that these repeated rescue attempts allow the needy individual to continue on a destructive course and to become even more dependent on the unhealthy caretaking of the benefactor. As this reliance increases, the co-dependent develops a sense of reward and satisfaction from being needed. When the caretaking becomes compulsive, the co-dependent feels choiceless and helpless in the relationship, but is unable to break away from the cycle of behavior that causes it.
*An exaggerated sense of responsibility for the actions of others
*A tendency to confuse love and pity, with the tendency to love people they can pity and rescue
*A tendency to do more than their share, all of the time
*A tendency to become hurt when people dont recognize their efforts
*An unhealthy dependence on relationships.
The co-dependent will do anything to hold on to a relationship; to avoid the feeling of abandonment
*An extreme need for approval and recognition
*A sense of guilt when asserting themselves
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A compelling need to control others
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Lack of trust in self and/or
others
*Fear of being abandoned or alone
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Difficulty identifying feelings
*Rigidity/difficulty adjusting to change
*Problems with intimacy/boundaries
*Chronic anger
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Lying/dishonesty
*Poor communications
*Difficulty making decisions