I'm thinking something along the lines of "no matter what TMH does, she is constantly judged as wrong, wrong, wrong."
I believe TH is guilty of something to do with Kyron's disappearance. But I also try to be very fair and logical in my thinking. And, I think you are right.
In light of the fact that Kyron just went missing, I see nothing sinister about TH demanding to know the whereabouts of her kid and that she is safe. That would be logical on the part of a parent who already lost one child.
I remember the first pressers. I saw a united, blended family. I was on the fence then. Now that I think TH is guilty, and have heard that DY had her suspicions at the time of the pressers, TH's clingy behavior grosses me out.
Not much in life is black and white, although I used to see things that way. Our beliefs likely color how we view a person's conduct but our view may not always be right, IMO. Not everything a guilty person does is necessarily further evidence of their nefariousness. The only thing that bugs me about the e-mail is that, viewed in the light that TH is guilty of taking Kyron away, she demands the right of knowing "her" child is safe while keeping that info from Kaine.
But viewing it in a neutral light, TH is just a stressed mother, in the middle of a horrible tragedy that is compounded by the breakdown of her relationship with her husband. Now he is keeping her other child from her.
So, even though I am 95% convinced of TH's guilt, I agree with you, GrainneDhu and am trying to be as objective as possible. JMHO.