Tabitha's family marks birthday with party, cake
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Tabitha Tuders usually celebrated her birthday with a party either at Hendersonville Skating Rink in Hendersonville or at her Lillian Street home in east Nashville.
The tradition hasn't changed since her disappearance last April. Family and friends celebrated her 14th birthday yesterday with a party at her home, with grilled hamburgers and hot dogs, and a white and pink cake adorned with three pink roses.
''We're having one just like she's here 'cause as far as I'm concerned, she's just missing. She's not gone yet,'' said Irvin ''Bo'' Tuders, Tabitha's father. ''We're fixing to cut the cake. She's somewhere; we just don't know where she's at.''
They also planted a flowering cherry tree in the front yard of Bailey Middle School, Tabitha's school. The tree's flowers are purple, Tabitha's favorite color.
Tabitha disappeared about 7 a.m. April 30 as she headed to her school bus stop. Her parents reported her missing shortly after 6 p.m. that day after learning she didn't get on the bus or attend classes. There have been reportings of possible sightings in places as far away as Indiana.
''It's been the same ol' stuff being reported,'' Irvin Tuders said. ''But she's not where she's supposed to be, and that's with her family.''
At Bailey, several family members and friends helped plant the tree, each dropping a shovel full of dirt onto the tiny mound. Shivering in the brisk cold air, people held balloons with pictures of Tabitha and personal notes as they softly sang Happy Birthday.
They released balloons and stood quietly as they floated into the gray skies. Tabitha's brother, Kevin Tuders, cried. Family and friends comforted him.
''It's hard and heartbreaking,'' he said. ''I can't describe it.''
Family members asked Bailey Middle Principal Ruth Murray about planting a tree last week as a reminder to her classmates, Murray said.
''It's important that children remember their friends,'' Murray said. ''This is a huge concern for the community because most of our students walk. We have eight buses, and that's all. Many of them drop their little brothers and sisters off at the (Cora Howe) elementary school'' located across the street from Bailey Middle School