Chocoholic
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BBM! And thank you!
I do love to learn new things. So I am assuming that the sleuthable people are only people officially named by LE.
Now as to what I bolded in your reply to me. I think we can all agree that HF is/was not any mother's dream of a boyfriend for her daughter. When a daughter is an adult, you have sometimes bite your tongue and put up with what she chooses. (And roll your eyes in private!)
There is so much speculation about HF. I think it is entirely possible that Christina's family had no idea what sort of guy he really is. You see, I am assuming that I can outright criticize him although I cannot sleuth him. The most obvious reason that he did not report her missing probably isn't even that they were fighting. As to their personal comings and goings as a couple, who knows what sort of arrangement that they had. Each couple negotiates their own it would be rather foolish to assume that my standards of what constitutes a proper relationship or that anyone else's standards would necessarily apply to them.
To me, the most obvious reason he did not report her missing is drugs. I am not launching some sort of conspiracy theory here and claiming that he and EA were in cahoots. What I am saying is simply that he was selling (probably) and using at the time. When folks say a party is over does not necessarily mean it is really over. The venue may merely be moved.
I base my belief on actually having been in a house where I believe people were using meth. It was not a pleasant experience. They do not eat (much), they do not sleep much and sometimes not at all, and this can go on a l-o-o-o-ng time. They are temperamental and callous and careless and move like the energizer bunny.
If we judge people who are using by reasonable people standards, we will just never understand. The assumption is that they should behave responsibly when, in fact, they not only won't behave responsibly; they can't. The drug is essentially making most of their decisions for them.
I know it is awful to say, but he may not have much noticed that she was not around. More brutally, for all we know, he did not much care.
ETA: I am not assuming he did not care later.
I just want to thank you for your input here. I know you are living in a state of limbo yourself ((((HUGS)))) and I really appreciate the fact that you take the time to care for others. I hope you find peace!