I was this way... I never had men around my children. My children were first and foremost my top priority while they were growing up. If I dated I either waited til they were with their father or my parents would watch them for me. "Single Moms" do NOT have to bring men around their children... not only for their physical well being, but their emotional well being as well.
I was reading the whole thread after seeing there were new posts. I've only been a member for a short time, but have read websleuths many times.
My comment is not directed towards any one person, but towards the "single mother stereotype" that keeps being brought up.
After I left my HUSBAND in 2000, I considered myself a single mother of 2 children. Three months later, I met my 2nd husband ONLINE. We met in a general chat room (not a love finder or hook up type chatroom, nor a personals chat). I have never been the type to hang out at bars or clubs. He met my children after a couple months of dating. He stood by me during my divorce, he has helped raise my children and OUR son, he has been THE ONLY father figure in my children's lives. My ex husband saw our kids off and on for a while, he does pay child support and has health insurance on them ..... however we are in the 3rd year of no communication with him by his own doing. After 6 1/2 yrs of being together (5 1/2 of it living together, buying a house together) we were married (celebrated our 1st anniversary in August).
While he is 6'4" and 300 pounds to my 5'3" 175 pounds, I still put my foot down if need be. Generally we are on the same page. Yes, he put his foot down that the kids needed to sleep in their room, not ours. But my 2 children slept in the same room, different beds until my daughter was 6 1/2 and my son was 5. Now the boys share a room. He is the math, social studies and science homework helper because that's his forte, while I'm reading, english, spelling.
So for the single mother stereotype that is being slammed, you should think twice because not all single mothers are putting a man over the kids. I personally believe the issues of single mothers and their lack of better judgement is the minority but since that is what is in the media, it's what others tend to generalize for all. The kids are a main reason I left their dad ~ was his verbal abuse or anger issues of punching walls better for them to be around? My children do not call my husband "dad", however they do refer to us as their parents, we get letters/cards that say "Dear Mom & Dad" and I even heard my 9 yo son say, "My dad went to get the car" (it was pouring rain) while introducing me to his music teacher during open house night at school.
So in the future, please refrain from generalizing single mothers as sex lusting *advertiser censored* who only care about theirselves.