Thank You for the above article link. I agreed with all the reasons why a couple in a domestic violence/abuse pattern should not go to general marriage/couples counseling, but see a Domestic Abuse Counselor. But would Susan define her husband as abusive, or would she see it as more of a controlling problem. Seeking out an Domestic Violence counselor would mean she'd have to see it as that. Did she? I guess that's the shocking part so far, kinda like Scott Peterson, Josh isn't a beat her up kind of guy. No, they don't seem that dangerous then up and kill their loving wife.