For the first portion I bolded, I will repectfully disagree with that in part. I see people being judged because their actions are deemed incorrect or wrong by someone else.
Second bolded statement: Isn't all sin equal in God's eyes? Haven't we all heard that? Isn't all stumbling sin?
There is one penalty for all sin--so in that respect yes. In severity? NO. Consider the teenager who tosses a cigarette into a public trashcan and deliberately ignites the contents causing damage only to the receptacle is probably a misdemeanor. Consider the heartache and suffering heaped upon Michael Brewer who, after being doused in a flammable liquid was set on fire--if he lives (he's been battling resp infections) he will face dozens more painful reconstructive surgeries, years and years of slow, agonizing rehabilitation... and just untold grief (look at the photos). You're gonna tell me all "stumbling" is the same? All sin is "equal" in severity?
Third bolded statement: On the contrary, our society is very harsh and judgemental, along with unforgiving. People are doling out 'solutions' and unafraid to vocalize the best punishment for 'sins' committed. For example, how absurd is it to say that Charlie Sheen should lose his job and his show because he allegedly beat his wife? How ridiculous is that? If everyone who beat their spouses or committed other sins were deemed to be qualified to lose their jobs over it, what does that really solve? All we do is add someone else to the welfare payroll. I seriously feel some people do not see the idiocy and illogicalness in some of the things that they say.
There is a reason God said, 'judge not, lest ye be judged'. Are we saying we don't trust God to dole out the most proper punishment in his judgement of someone? Are we saying the Almighty is incompetent of doing so?