WOW....it was some of the lacrosse players who "discovered" Morgan's purse???????
well, I sure missed that somewhere along the line
I am appalled that a few of the posts in this thread seem to be aimed at making excuses for this jerk, i.e., that it was an accident, that he regrets it and just lost control, etc. Why? Because he is good-looking, white, athletic and rich? Sorry, no. GH is a spoiled brat. He most likely grew up getting everything he wanted, all the while misbehaving, acting out, and throwing temper tantrums, and his parents most likely got him out of any sticky situation he was in in the past and prevented him from learning the concepts of responsibility and that there are consequences for our negative actions. In doing so his parents did him a huge disservice, and played a part in bringing us to where we are today, with a beautiful girl's life brutally ended over...what? Relationship drama? A breakup? It sounds like GH wasn't getting what he wanted, and was to say the least ill-prepared to deal with it.
In addition, I don't believe two lives full of potential were wasted due to this murder. One life was - Yeardley's. GH is a burgeoning sociopath and I seriously doubt he ever would have contributed anything positive to society anyway. I also don't buy that drugs and/or alcohol played a large role in Yeardley's murder. Drugs and alcohol do not cause violence; rather, they are simply used as an excuse for causing violence. I've done more than my fair share and funny enough I've avoided killing or hurting anybody, or ever having the urge to!
I have no pity for GH, I hope he rots in a filthy cell in a violent state prison and has Bubba for a cell mate. RIP Yeardley - you did not deserve this.
Interesting insight into the culture maybe
http://www.sbnation.com/2010/5/6/1459030/george-huguely-yeardley-love-uva-lacrosse-murder
George Huguely was clearly a young man with problems. To what extent they were manifested, and how, remains to be seen. Given my relationship to some of his friends, I've heard things, but all that'll trickle out in due time. For now, let's say this: To leave any human being the way he left Yeardley that night requires both deep-seated psychological problems and a severe emotional detachment.
Diagnosing those issues and their source is someone else's job, but having lived vicariously through a number of friends playing Division 1 lacrosse, and having seen the lifestyles firsthand, it's not hard to see how that culture of excess may have exacerbated whatever problems this kid was facing.
George Huguely may not have felt "entitled" to date Yeardley Love regardless of her objections (that conclusion's too easy) but it's entirely conceivable that lacrosse's entitlement culture, filled with excess, enabled him to turn to drugs and alcohol as a coping mechanism, and without any social repercussions, burying his "issues" deep inside. And make no mistake, whatever happened the night of Huguely's "altercation" with Yeardley Love, some sort of substance abuse contributed to that "emotional detachment" referenced above.
Witnesses have said he'd been seen drinking all day, and don't be surprised if the police report reveals that there were drugs in his system that night. And whatever the case, really, it all points to the same problem, where lacrosse is at least tangentially complicit.
Thanks, you do have a point here. People under stress and in shock will say things that seem weird to the outside observer--you just don't know where their minds are going when they speak. Grandpa may have been caught off guard,and graduation may have been the topic of the day until this happened...
I think grandpa may have chosen not to see the bad side of his grandson. GH may have had "only" one arrest, but the family certainly could see how he acted: his drinking, violence, and behavior problems. I've seen this kind of denial myself; they just ignore, deny and make jokes about the individual's behavior.
He is an adult so at this point his behavior is his behavior and his parents aren't responsible for it.As in most tragedies, there is never one reason, not even two. There seems to be a multitude of complexities in this young man's past. But, I've always believed that if someone cannot, does not, doesn't know how to ask for help and communicate, they will show it---even unknowingly by their actions. His actions were clearly visible on several occasions and more than just one person noticed and dropped the ball. The parents had and have the money to pay for attending a prominent university and a good defense attorney. They should have spent more time and a little of that money solving an obvious behavior problem. Now he will be doing much time and the money won't even matter after that. The parents of both will be scarred by time having to endure the loss of a loved one. JMO
He is an adult so at this point his behavior is his behavior and his parents aren't responsible for it.
Your right jjenny, their hands are pretty well tied NOW to help him because of his legal age, with the exception of good legal council and family support. Unfortunately, there is no anatomical switch that activates maturity and rationale at the stroke of midnight on your 18th birthday.
You may see an elderly man standing in the middle of an intersection or traffic a bit confused...do you go help him or say...he's an adult and responsible for himself? Same here.
There were many flashing signs telling of the upcoming probable train wreck and no one taught him the life skills to avoid it. Granted other people in his environment could have stepped up to the plate....maybe even in giving his family a call to say "I'm concerned", and any attentive parent would have stepped in...he was still their child...no matter if legal age or not.
I feel sad for his family as well, because like I said before, it's a tragedy....more than just one thing you can point the finger to...but dang it, I can't believe if he had had his butt blistered and experienced a few time outs, with some quantification of wrong and right, and actions have consequences, he wouldn't be in a jail cell facing murder 1 charges.
(Yes, I do believe in one swat on the hinny when children become lost in that tunnel vision and head strong. It's called snap out of it, instead of slap happy.) JMO
Well nowdays slapping your child can lead to being investigated for child abuse, even if you just slap them once without causing any serious damage, let alone if you actually "blister the butt."
I tend to take Hollyblue's side on this one...I have never thought a swat on the butt=child abuse and think there is a generation of young people in which many might have benefited from such, from time to time...jmo