My first statement was a simple fact that relates to any case, not just this one.
I don't need videos to know about the concept of not talking to police. That is basically when a person is arrested and prior to getting a lawyer. It's quite simple really ... if the person has a believable story with valid information or evidence to substantiate it, they can explain everything they know to their lawyer, and the lawyer works on his clients behalf to explain to the Crown why they have the wrong guy.
That is not the case. I have spoken with many lawyers and I know that is not the case. Most lawyers would say , let them keep going, why give them anything, let them prove what they are saying and then show the jury how and why they are wrong. Basically once charged, like with electricity, the charge doesn't end until it is dis charged one way or another.
After my stepfather was murdered, we didn't need lawyers to explain to them what we knew, where we were and what we were doing at the time he was murdered. We told the truth, had no reasons to be arrested, and years later the guilty party was arrested, sentenced to life, and ultimately died in prison..
I am truly sorry for your loss. In life we can't always bring our own personal tragedy into every case thereafter. You say your situation was years ago, that may be a factor in why things were different. We are dealing with a whole new ball of wax these days.
Truth is a funny thing, eh? It would be a frosty day in July that I would sit in a jail cell going on 2 years with information that could exonerate me on a first degree murder charge if I knew the truth, knew who was responsible, and could tell/show my accusers they are wrong.
Maybe or maybe not, that would depend on what you know and who you feel is responsible for the situation. Sometimes it is better to let the scroll unroll and allow it to snare the bait. For all we know this could be a deadly situation for the accused, they may be safer where they are right now rather than out. At this point it is difficult to know what is happening as no preliminary hearing has taken place, and as I have said before that tells me that it is the defense that has more ammunition than the crown. Just my opinion.