I most identify with the Eckers.
Sounds to me like they raised a loving, responsible son. He fell in love with Terri...his school-days" friend, and seemingly set about to do everything in his power for her. Though it was her second wedding, she had the fancy white long bridal dress. He put her educational "wants" before his own. He adopted her little boy.
I think he must have adored her.
Terri's comment about her son's inheritance, IMO, shows the "power" she had in that family and the ease she felt expressing it. . My husband would be none too pleased if I questioned anything his parents did with their own money...or assumed they needed to protect my children's inheritance first.
I think the Ecker's loved Terri too. I think they saw themselves as "Family." I think they embraced her and her little boy into their family and their hearts.
All the bitterness we hear now, is the residue of the betrayal...when the daughter-in-law they trusted and loved kicked their loving son to the curb. Terri made a mockery of his goodness to her. Financing her education was a con-job investment. Loving her child was a heartbreak-to-be.
And then she left their son with a financial burden she insisted the court RAISE...with only canceled checks over the years to remind him of the child the whole family once embraced as their own.
Has their son remarried? Does he have children?
If not, maybe the Ecker's feel he has never recovered the trust after marrying his "friend." Maybe they see his lonliness as a direct result of the pain Terri caused him.
If he has...maybe they see their son's family as being denied certain things now financially because he must pay and pay for believing in Terri's love. Maybe his wife would like to be a stay-at-home Mom, but the support payments prevent that. Yet they see Terri, not working to support her son in any way. Perhaps it looks to the Eckers like Terri has perfected a paternity Ponzi scheme in their eyes. Teri promised a forever family; she betrayed their son, took the child and left him only with a $500 a month continuing debt. She moved on to another man to support her and another child to bind him.
To the Eckers, Terri may look like the Bernie Madhoff of Daughter-in-laws. They remember with pain ALL the love they invested in her. They see daily the lasting wounds she inflicted on their son.
This is all fictionalized. of course. But whether your son is five or forty...you feel his devastation and betrayal of his loving intentions as your own. It is an eternal pain to see him give openly, lovingly...and then be cheated on, used, and discarded.