lynmaree, I would love to agree with you on this, I really would. I'm usually the last person to question anyone else's motivations or to second-guess their actions because who am I to judge. Like you say, everybody with any kind of life at all has led a messy imperfect life and there's no telling how any of us would act or react if put in the same situation. So I cut people a huge amount of slack and am understanding of just about anything. In that sense, I don't fault anyone in this cast of characters, not Kaine, not Desiree, not Terri, heck, I don't even fault DeDe's ex-boyfriend. I honestly believe that they are all doing what they think is the right thing to do under the circumstances as they see them.
I disagree with you that the ugly details of their private lives is merely a product of the media and sluethers. In reality, Kaine and Desiree are the source of every single piece of salacious information that has made up the soap opera. They are the ones who took their problems with Terri public to make sure she was the focus of blame and felt the heat. I believe they have perfectly just reasons for doing that and I don't fault them for anything they have said or done. But even though I don't fault them, it doesn't change the fact that the nasty, ugly, petty storm created to pressure Terri, the unsavory things Terri has done and the path she has taken in response to the tragedy, and the unhelpful actions of a number of bit players, have all resulted in Kyron being pushed to the side.
Nope, I don't fault any one of them for their individual actions but the result is unforgiveable.