Would you feel differently about Cindy's behavior if?

[Leila]

I voted "no" as Cindy's behavior is what it is, and it doesn't matter if the victim is her own granddaughter, or a stranger, it wouldn't change Cindy's behavior or her goal...............to get her daughter acquitted of a heinous crime and not have to suffer the consequences of her actions.

Cindy's behavior from the beginning was obnoxious and totally inappropriate! It quickly became obvious that Casey, not Caylee, was the focus of Cindy's attention and concern. She used her own deceased granddaughter as a platform in a bogus "she's alive and a kidnapped child" campaign in an attempt to steer the investigation away from her daughter.

She created a foundation for missing children in her deceased granddaughter's name in an effort to promote the idea that her granddaughter was a missing child, not a murdered child. Cindy made a financial profit from her deceased granddaughter.

Three weeks after Cindy sent DC to the woods off of Suburban Drive to look for Caylee's remains, she and George appeared on the Larry King Live program stating that they had a tip about someone seeing Caylee in a restaurant in Los Angeles. In retrospect, this suggests that they were engaged in an elaborate deception. The very next day, Caylee's remains were found in the woods off Suburban Drive, and while a team of forensic investigators worked to find all of Caylee's bones, Cindy and George entertained a group in the dining room at the Ritz hotel in Orlando.

Cindy turned her back on Caylee, denying her justice in favor of Caylee's killer. That's the one thing that has angered everyone the most.

In some respects, Cindy's behavior might be even worse if the victim had been a stranger.........another child or even an adult. I think Cindy would have been relentless in attacking the victim's family and friends, trying to find someone other than Casey to blame for the death. Another family would be having to deal with their grief and at the same time trying to defend themselves from Cindy's vicious attacks on their character and the character of the victim.

If the victim had been a stranger, I think Cindy would have still tampered with the evidence. She still would have cleaned Casey's car and destroyed any evidence there.

Had the victim been a stranger, and after LE had determined that Casey's story was a lie, in all likelihood there wouldn't have been sightings of the victim in promoting that the victim was a kidnap victim not a homicide. But I suspect that Cindy would have done interviews stating that since there was no body, there was no murder.

Certain aspects of this case would change if the victim was a stranger, but not Cindy's behavior.

 

[Just Jayla]

Of course the idea that CA is abandoning Caylee in all of this is disturbing-But no, I would find her behavior just as repulsive if it were a stranger. I get the distinct feeling I would find her behavior repulsive in many other areas of life, too-Imagine being the counselor at KC's high school and having to deal with this woman who will not assign any personal responsibility to her daughter-Or being the receptionist at the towing company that had to hear CA ream them out because CA does not use her front door at home.
Or being GA, told that because he did not live in CA's home, he had no domain over his daughter. How about being Lee Anthony, and your mom basically ignores that your sister accused you of incest? That hurts Lee, whether he says it or not.
Nope, if it were a stranger and CA actively covered her daughter's arse and tracks the way she has, at the expense of others-I would still want her behind bars.

 

[nursebeeme]

I voted no...

I tried to put myself in Cindy's shoes... and I thought... if my son killed a stranger would I protect him??

he!! no!!! and I would surly be apologizing to the victim's family over trying to protect a guilty party.....

I could never protect my son if I knew he was guilty of a crime. I have taught him to do right and if he does wrong to take the consequences...

this is where I believe Cindy and I are vastly different.... obviously Casey has gotten away with a lot before this even happened.

moo

 

[Solace]

IMO,

I think Cindy has known for a long time that Casey killed Caylee. I'd say as soon as they found her body for sure. But go back at the beginning. When she called the police, saying the car smelled like a dead body. She could say it out loud because she really didn't know what happened. There was pure fear in her voice. After that, when she's visiting Casey in jail, what I saw is that she's trying to find answers but she WANTS to believes that Casey is somehow a victim, that Caylee is still alive. Remember in an interview she said that Casey could not talk freely because she was trying to protect her family? She was trying to hold on to the idea that Casey was innocent in Caylee's disappearance. But I think with time, with the evidence that was presented daily in the media, she started thinking... MAYBE Casey made a mistake and Caylee had died. I think that she started feeling responsible for Casey's behavior, blaming herself as a mother as if somehow she could have prevented all this. Who knows, maybe George wanted to stop Casey for leaving that day and Cindy told him to let her go... So, thinking that it was too late to protect Caylee, she HAD to protect Casey. I think that in her mind, she has to support Casey hoping that in doing so, she will make up for some of the guilt she feels....

I'm not saying I agree with her behavior, but I know guilt can make people do a lot of thing they would not normally do...

I agree Jomasano,

As soon as Cindy admits that her daughter killed Caylee, she has to admit that she let it happen and that is not going to happen. It is too painful and she is not ready and maybe never will be ready to do that.

In the August 14th interview with KC, she tells KC we need more to go on and then KC lashes out and George takes the phone and calms her down and Cindy looks on and then puts her head down on the desk. She knows and she was still hoping that maybe KC gave the child to someone else and maybe they will still get her back, but in her heart she knows that Caylee is dead.

The third 911 call is heart wrenching because Cindy is literally falling apart and then to everyone's surprise she turns around and defends KC. She is going to continue to do so, because not doing that means she, herself, failed Caylee. And she demands that George go along with it and Lee also. And George being as weak as he is, does just that.

 

[Scamperoo]

I voted no, I believe Cindy circled the wagon early and it made little difference who the victim was, it seems almost as if she would do anything to spare her daughter. Somehow I think she sees herself in Casey and she is giving her a pass, even Caylee was cast aside for Casey almost as if she were Cindy's alter ego.

On a lighter note: http://eggtreenews.wordpress.com/

 

[Solace]

I voted no, I believe Cindy circled the wagon early and it made little difference who the victim was, it seems almost as if she would do anything to spare her daughter. Somehow I think she sees herself in Casey and she is giving her a pass, even Caylee was cast aside for Casey almost as if she were Cindy's alter ego.

On a lighter note: http://eggtreenews.wordpress.com/

I think Cindy went into complete denial after July 16th and realized that Caylee was dead. Remember she does acuse KC of telling lies and she should blame herself - this is the evening of July 16th after KC has been arrested. So up to then Cindy was blaming KC. But I think she was in shock and did not really comprehend what it meant and what it meant was KC killed Caylee and Cindy let it happen.

That is quite something to admit. I think the denial is just plain and simple self-preservation on Cindy's part.

 

[cyberborg]

Someone pointed this out a long time ago and I don't remember who it was on this forum who said it... but it always stuck with me.

If Cindy really loved Casey unconditionally, she would accept her for who she is and what she has done and still love her. That is unconditional love. Not lying about who Casey was and what she did. She has created an image of Casey that she loves... but it is not Casey.

The other person who brought this up said it so much better than I did. Hope this makes sense.

BBM.

:clap::clap: Exactly! :clap::clap:

ETA: The other side of this is, CA has also allowed ICA too much freedom with no boundaries so that ICA would love her back in return. The result was that ICA respected no-one and escalated out of self-serving selfish and spiteful control.

 

[Tulessa]

The answer is a resounding NO! It all goes back to her parenting skills IMO. My son is 36, he's wonderful! If he's even been in jail, I don't know it, cuz dear ole Mom told him if he made it to the jail cell he would have to make it out on his own. Same thing with being his friend. Friend takes a back seat to Mom , even though he is 36 years old & on his own. Parenting is something you sign on for, for life. It never ends. Cindy has done nothing but cover up for Casey. She's as much to blame for Caylee's death as Casey is. I know that sounds harsh & I am not a harsh person but if she had let Casey give her up for adoption like she wanted, we would not be discussing this case today.
/off rant!

 

[countzero]

To use my grandson's words, who quotes Napoleon Dynamite and because of TOS rules:

HECK NO!!!!!!

 

[kaRN]

I'm inclined to think that if ICA was in jail awaiting trial for snuffing out somebody elses toddler, we wouldn't even know who CA is. She'd have Caylee all to herself and Casey safely tucked away in a controlled environment far away from her pocketbook. I think ICA would be on her own then.

 

[LambChop]

I'm inclined to think that if ICA was in jail awaiting trial for snuffing out somebody elses toddler, we wouldn't even know who CA is. She'd have Caylee all to herself and Casey safely tucked away in a controlled environment far away from her pocketbook. I think ICA would be on her own then.

That pretty says it all.

 

[LancelotLink]

The poll question just brings home exactly what all this individual has done to steer an investigation away from her family and home. The fact that the victim lived in her house gave her much more amo, but the actions are hideous regardless. And illegal.
I hope all of the machinations from this family come to light and the sunshine beats down on their upturned faces.

 

[Cayleefan]

I really thought about this question. And, I really feel that I wouldn't because right is right and wrong is wrong.

 

[OneLostGrl]

Someone pointed this out a long time ago and I don't remember who it was on this forum who said it... but it always stuck with me.

If Cindy really loved Casey unconditionally, she would accept her for who she is and what she has done and still love her. That is unconditional love. Not lying about who Casey was and what she did. She has created an image of Casey that she loves... but it is not Casey.

The other person who brought this up said it so much better than I did. Hope this makes sense.

Bold is mine

That would be me. But you said it wonderfully in your own words!

 

[gngr~snap]

I voted no... however another victim "a stranger"...
would hopefully have had parents and family and friends that would have come forward well before 30days, and CA would not have been able to keep it "all in the family"...
my thunker is a clunker! CA has sprained my brain!

 

[Zoe Bogart]

I know we're all sorting through the new doc dump. But this thought crossed my mind about how each of us feels about Cindy's behavior and actions regarding this case.

Would you feel differently if the victim in this case wasn't her own Granddaughter?

Could you me more understanding of Cindy's alleged/perceived attempts to fight LE at every turn? To the level that some believe is borderline criminal?

Would you as a parent be more likely to bend/break a few rules for your children if it was a stranger they killed?

Is it the fact that Caylee was her Granddaughter that we have scrutinized Cindy so much?

While I do believe Cindy's behavior has been appalling because the victim is her own granddaughter, I would find her behavior appalling even if the victim has been a total stranger. We're talking about MURDER. I would hope and pray any family member would feel sympathy for a victim even if the murderer was a member of the family.

I would hope I could step up for justice for the victim rather than obstruct justice to save my murderous child. Difficult to do? Yes, I'm sure it is. It would be the moral thing to do.

I don't care how we look at it, Cindy is wrong, wrong, wrong. After reading some of her letters, I think she's a conniver. "When Spring comes and your trial is over we will find her together." She's either in deep denial, terribly disturbed, or thinks she's being clever by writing this stupid stuff in the letters knowing they will be released and people will read them, thinking, "oh, poor woman, she still thinks Caylee is alive." She doesn't fool me. I think it's the latter.

 

[Zoe Bogart]

> I hate that I'm going to post this, but.....<
*If* I had done this, I can guarantee you my parents, and everyone else in my family, would never speak to me again and want to see me rot in prison. If they saw me in court, it would take several officers to hold them back from choking the living daylights out of me.

snipped for the part I'm referring to:

Your parents and mine! I've said from Day 31, if my daughter had disappeared for less than 24 hours, my mother would have been in my face screaming, "Where is she? Bring her here NOW."

If I had killed my child, there would have been no trial for me. My mother would have been the one facing charges for killing me. No way would my parents have been Anthony clones.

Although, after becoming familiar with other missing/murdered children's cases, I'm beginning to see how some families rally around the accused/suspects/persons of interest, and it ain't pretty.

 

[Sherbie]

I have to vote "no" in this poll. Had the victim been someone else's child, I believe it would have simply extended the pool of suspects at whom Cindy would point her finger and aim her nastiness and deplorable tactics. They would just be additional innocent victims of the dastardly CA/CA mother/daughter duo.

I can almost understand her behavior better with the victim being Caylee than someone else's child -- in this situation, she has already lost her granddaughter and would do (and has done) anything she could not to lose another child.

I truly do have sympathy for her horrific situation. Despite how much I dislike all she's done, I know she's got to be in a hell we can't even imagine.

 

[LCoastMom]

No! I didn't even need to think about it, but for the sake of this poll I did think about all options and still say No!

 

[iluvmua]

I'm sorry for the situation that Cindy has to go through but she's NOT the only person who has lost someone to murder.

I might feel differently IF she didn't know that Caylee was desceased.

The 31 days of not seeing your granddaughter and then calling the police a month later DOES NOT cut it for me.

Cindy knew, George knew, I think they all knew and IMO, they were stalling because they didn't want Casey to get in trouble.