mysteriew
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It is real easy to say. I used to say the same thing until my daughter ended up in a marriage like that. There is so much involved in Domestic Violence and unless you have been there it is easy to be judgmental. I learned a big lesson and now I really try to understand. You can go into a relationship with lots of self worth, etc and have it gradually beaten out of you along with all of the terrible things that are said to you. I couldn't explain everything involved if I tried because it would take to many pages and time. It just isn't simple like we think it is. Like someone said..."There But For The Grace Of God Go I."
I agree. DV is a combination of manipulation, emotional, physical and often sexual abuse. And it wears you down, to the point that you know you should get out- but you feel you can't. And to top it off, the most dangerous time for an abused woman is if she is trying to leave. That is the time the abuser is more likely to purposefully kill. They know that and they are scared.
Think of Kathleen Savio who told her family that if she died accidently, that it was probably DrewP. Or Stacy who made her sister promise to look for her if she went missing. Many women are told what will happen if they leave.
Like Bobbi's Angel said, unless you have been there or been close it is really hard to understand.