Great post. Our past experiences and relationships affect our viewpoints. It is important to remember this and view information from different POVs.
Thank you. I meant to add my POV / MOO of how I saw Gabby in the hour long police body-cam video.
I feel she was crying over much more than she told LE. That is was from an argument they’d had over “just some small dumb stuff.” Those sobs and tears were from much more than what she said.
It seems her crying was more from being very exhausted <modsnip> She seemed very frightened at first (of Brian? His fear she might say something to incriminate him?)
After sitting in the police car for quite awhile, she seemed to feel less nervous and possibly safe.
From what I know about mental and physical domestic abuse/violence (includes my attendance at many seminars and in-service training)…. Gabby acted just like I’ve seen many times in women who’ve been abused by a controlling, gas-lighting, abusive partner.
They’re told over and over by the abuser that they deserved it, that it was their fault. And if reported, the victim “will be sorry!” Gabby said several times that the argument was her fault, and that she caused Brian to swerve and hit the curb! She admitted that she had OCD and little things upset her and caused her anxiety. She never blamed Brian for anything.
However, Brian acted as though he was always the calm, appropriate, de-escalating one of the two. He said several times that he had suggested to Gabby that they needed to just calm down and separate for a short while. (Such a good therapist!!)
They both acted as though they were totally ok with being separated for the night. Odd over an argument about “some small dumb stuff”.
I was expecting one of them to say…. “Can I give him/her a quick hug before I leave?”