Skigirl
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I think you've nailed a lot of it. Certainly you've hit on likely elements of their conflict. I think it's pretty likely that where she was found is pretty much where it happened, and that they were there at night with plans to sleep in the tent, and that her death was the result of an explosion of anger.I'm wondering about the circumstances that led up to Gabby's death. I've known a few abusers in my life and the overarching theme of these guys was always maintaining an image for their friends. It was very important to them that their friends couldn't envision the physical harm they rained down on their SO. Most of the violence was in the home not in public. But walls have ears and victims sometimes spill their guts to close friends.
In the case of BL, he'd already experienced what a concerned citizen could do by calling 911 putting him on display and having to explain the circumstances of his actions. But lo and behold, he met some bros who commiserated with him and he was laughing and joking with them while Gabby sat in the police car mentally exhausted, physically harmed and emotionally spent. She actually took the load off him.
But one thing Gabby was, was driven. She was focused on her dream to create a video blog of their travels. And nothing was going to stop her. After the second dustup in the restaurant, where BL lost his cool in front of many people, I'm sure the last place he wanted to be was back in an environment where he may have been recognized as the jerk who had a tantrum. It's kind of difficult to rehabilitate your image when you already have a couple of public displays of anger.
I can just imagine the conversations they may have had the night Gabby was killed. She was bound and determined to continue and he was trying his best to undermine her plans. Probably at some time, she may have issued an ultimatum: if you don't want to continue, fine, but I'm going to finish this trip with you or without you. Words flew, anger increased, threats were made. Maybe even Gabby saying, 'oh, no this van is mine. If you want to go back to Florida it won't be in the van.' She gets up to leave he stops her she struggles and he does what he always has. He just want her to shut up. She never shuts up. Now she's lying on the ground and he sits there crying. So full of remorse. 'I'm sorry Gabby. Why can't you just shut up'. He stays sorry until he realizes he's sitting beside a dead girl. A terrible accident. Just an accident. I can explain. Mom, dad, I can explain. He takes her phone, the keys and her credit cards. He never touches her again. He breaks camp and is gone before first light.
The only part that (MOO) doesn't quite fit is his leaving before first light. The people who picked him up hitchhiking are very believable to me. I think that his story about camping on the Snake River while she worked on her "little website" was his first draft of his cover story, in which he would come back after "being gone for a few days, camping alone" and "find her missing." I'm not sure why he didn't pull the trigger on that story -- it's not a particularly good one, but it's probably close to the story he'll eventually tell, anyway -- other than that after reflecting and realizing that he'd potentially be remembered for his restaurant rager in Jackson, he was worried that the story wouldn't fit and he'd be caught (or maybe he sought advice from his parents and they told him to just come home... however... I doubt their counsel would have been to steal her money in a very traceable fashion along the way). Maybe the thought of reporting her, and then having to be see publicly looking for her, and being voluntarily interviewed by LE made him think twice and decide that it would be better to put as much time as possible between her time of death and the discovery of her body.