Nore
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I think it's strange that she supposedly asked for "some kind of medication". That's suspicious to me.
O/T When I was told my baby girl was dying, my first reaction (and those of my close family & friends) was to collapse, be in shock, scream, cry etc. My sister totally lost her mind for a few seconds . We all walked around in a daze for awhile, mechanically trying to complete necessary errands alternating with bouts of grief and necessary hope. Not once did I ask for any medication.
The reason I didn't ask for drugs is b/c I wasn't thinking about myself. My friends & family weren't thinking about where they could score something to make them feel better either. We were all trying to do things to prepare for my daughter's death while at the same time trying desperately to think of things that would save her. I mean, that is all we we cared about, not our own emotional/mental states, which were obviously unstable and devastated.
So, I just find it weird that she supposedly needed to numb herself to that. I mean, no one wants to feel that pain but as a parent, trying to escape that pain in that moment, seems almost disrespectful to the dying or dead child.
I'm not, by any means, suggesting that many of us need medication to cope or function after the fact. I'm just saying in that moment - is it normal to think "meds, I need some drugs" or whatever she actually said?
I mean no offense or hurt to anyone here & would like to hear differing viewpoints (jmo).
I agree with you.My 36yr.old son died in a nursing home results of a stroke.
I was with him for 3 1/2 yrs..when he was in a coma the nurses made me get a cup of coffee.They asked if I had pills,said yes but I wouldn't take them. I wanted to be THERE for him.They made me take a 2 mg. valium or wouldnt let me go back.It didnt phase me.He died in my arms,my beloved son...No drugs really help.A parent wants to be completely concious.If it does help someone great,for me I was better off clear.:rose: