Found Safe AL - ANF, 13, Pelham, Shelby County, 21 Jan 2020 *Arrest*

[Ontario Mom]

This thread went sorta weird.

 

[evilwise]

Yes, it's very telling what a strong reaction some people are having to me saying parents have a responsibility to protect their children. It's quite possible that in this case there was little that her parent could have done and considering that this time nothing bad happened and there's no threat to the community is entirely appropriate that the children's services case is private but forums like this one that closely examine crime offer rare opportunity to see patterns of criminal behavior and ways of protecting ourselves and our loved ones from the kind of things we see happen over and over and over again.

 

[gitana1]

I'm agreeing with you. A law like that is unamerican, it's controlling and just bananas nuts.

My questions is, would he be saying all this if the child was a boy and met a woman online? idk

What would amount to child neglect would be allowing your kid to contact and go off with a stranger off the internet. But not noticing that they’ve done so is not child neglect. So many things can conspire to cause something like that to happen to the best of parents.

 

[gitana1]

Yes, it's very telling what a strong reaction some people are having to me saying parents have a responsibility to protect their children. It's quite possible that in this case there was little that her parent could have done and considering that this time nothing bad happened and there's no threat to the community is entirely appropriate that the children's services case is private but forums like this one that closely examine crime offer rare opportunity to see patterns of criminal behavior and ways of protecting ourselves and our loved ones from the kind of things we see happen over and over and over again.

That is NOT what you said. You’re trying to soften it now. But what you did was make the inflammatory and unreasonable statement that we should charge parents with a crime if their teenager manages to contact an adult on the internet. That’s not child neglect. Maybe in North Korea but not here.

I am explaining the law in this nation.

Neglect would be allowing your child to meet a stranger and go off with them. Or being wasted on the couch all the time and not realizing that their six year old is engaging with an adult online, who then meets with the adult at the house and leaves with them, all the while the parent is passed out on the couch.

Those are examples of neglect.

Failing to hover like the Duggars, which would be the only way to ensure a teenager can never ever do something stupid and break rules and access something online somewhere that the parent isn’t aware of (which would only be possible if the child was homeschooled, never went to friends’ homes, had no personal electronics and was whipped if they ever broke the rules), is not child neglect and it’s absurd to state as much.

I feel like any normal, loving parent would understand that.